My wife and I have been married for 12 years with 3 wonderful kids. We had a catastrophic event happen to the family recently, which my wife feels had me choose between her and my parents. This went on for 3 months and one of her internet pals from high school was “there” for her when I wasn’t. She is now telling me that we can’t be married due to what has happened and she doesn’t see out lives ever being the same. She tells me that if we could have our old life back she would do it in a second and that she thinks if we try to work it out I would hurt her again like so many times before. I have seen now that she is the most important thing to me and I think it’s just to late. I really do believe this other guy was a shoulder for her to cry on and now she thinks she has deep feelings for him. She is telling me that her heart is telling her we need to work through this, but her mind is telling her no.