I completely agree that mindless web-surfing is a good way to relax AFTER I’ve spent some time working on my goals, but not before.

Here’s the main website: Articles and lectures by Susan Heitler. She is a therapist who practices in Denver and specializes in marriage counseling. Since I went through a divorce recently, I have done a lot of reading in this area, and I think a lot of my current hang-ups are unresolved conflicts from my marriage.

The one article that really goes into her style of working with conflict resolution is the one titled “Conflict Resolution for Counselors and Couples.” It mentions 4 different types of conflicts: Inner, Interpersonal, Intergroup, and Reality (i.e. conflict with an external situation), but it focuses on resolving interpersonal conflict between couples. I think that I have a conflict with Reality, with adjusting to my current situation post-divorce, and probably also an Inner conflict within myself to resolve. I also thought some of the other articles had some useful information.

Best wishes. Maybe we can work together to resolve our conflicts and get more done.