Today the woman from my email group came over—I was a little nervous but managed to not psyche myself out. I think the biggest concern I had was that I’d be disappointed if it was lackluster or we just didn’t connect very well.
But the conversation was interesting and enjoyable, her personality meshed well with ours, and the kids got along. We didn’t meet her husband but he sounds like a neat person. I’m pretty tickled about how well things turned out!
It has been such a challenge to meet intelligent, compassionate, free-thinkers in this area. Oh, and sense of humor is a BIGGIE for me, too.
It’s hard enough to meet someone with those qualities, but it goes deeper than that for me. Maturity is important, too—I mean, I’m goofy and silly at times but I want to surround myself with people who have a positive outlook and who appreciate balance and harmony. I don’t jive well with people who don’t have an interest in growing and learning. Also, it irks me when people don’t take personal responsibility for themselves—please deal with your shit and then get back to me, okay?
Also, I’ve met too many women who are in bad relationships. I feel for them but I can’t get caught up in that drama. DH and I have a good thing and we want to be around other couples who have healthy, fulfilling relationships. We LIKE each other, a LOT. We’re best friends. It just doesn’t work when we try to social with people who are constantly making derogatory comments about their spouse. Grow up!!
Fortunately all of my concerns about these things just dissipated over the course of the day as we talked and shared stories. I noticed a lot of positive qualities about her and we share a similar outlook on life.
The original plan was for a 2 hour visit over coffee, but we hung out and talked for nearly 7 hours! Wow. It was comfortable and fun—it just flowed. Yay!
I’m definitely interested in getting to know her better. I’m trying not to get my expectations too high because this is really still in the beginning stages but I think there was definite “clicking”.