(And a few of you ladies out there as well…you know who you are.)

Make a note.

Tonight, go to your woman. Say, “Take off all of your clothes and lie down on the bed.” She may act surprised, make a joke, or say, “What is the meaning of this?” Tell her gently, “Trust me. Just do it.”

Turn off the bedroom lights. Ask her to roll over onto her stomach. She will not be able to see what you are doing. Get a bottle of good body lotion (perhaps with a natural, not perfumey scent) and give her a massage. On her back. On her arms. On her legs. Don’t forget her feet and hands. Nice, long, soothing, sensual strokes. Get all of the tension out of her back and shoulders. No talking, just soothing.

She may think that you are expecting something in return, and will be thoroughly surprised when you say quietly, “Whenever you’re ready to get up you can go take your shower/a warm bath.” Or pull the covers up, give her a kiss, touch her hair, and walk away.

It’s a nice way to show your woman how you feel about her.