songwine

keep my heart open (read all 7 entries…)
What you resist persists 8 months ago

At my residence there is a man who has talked to me every time he sees me for years. I have a reserved nature but have allowed this to go on. He is still telling me about his life and otherwise engaging me whenever our path’s cross. I am tired of this, but I realize that when I do interact, my heart is open, even though I do little to prolong our conversations (which are mostly monologues on his part). So, I’m successfully pursuing this goal, but somehow there seems to be something else going on that needs addressing, I think… I believe that on some tacit level I am resisting him, and, well, you know, what you resist persists.

Mar 29, 09:52AM PDT | 14 cheers


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misprint2 a piece of driftwood

Congrats on being able to, despite of being tired of it

It might be helpful to apply “ask for what I want” and “say exactly what I mean” to this situation. ;) I find that it can incredibly hard to keep my heart open in that kind of situation, because it takes so much patience. Even though I’m unsually rather curious and like to be told all sorts of things, I also tend to get tired of it when it’s very one-sided and goes on for a long time. It might help to become more active and either talk back (which can – surprisingly – be more fun for both people involved) or kindly make him understand your tiredness.

Mar 29, 12:01PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

songwine

I love

the way you are willing to dive right in and share your perspective on what seem to me to be my densest posts. It’s clear you are reading them carefully and giving them thoughtful consideration.

Mar 29, 05:46PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

misprint2 a piece of driftwood

I love

your densest post, because they always make me think :)

Mar 30, 02:51PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

MrAverage Who Thinks That Life is but a Dream

paradoxical intentions

is a theory put forth by Viktor Frankl, a long time ago. Same concept as your quote here.

I have a similar “problem” with one of my own neighbors…. He is quite a presumptuous neighbor.

Nov 04, 05:24AM PST | Respond to this


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