Looking out over the decisions I am making in the next year, it has occurred to me that taking control is indeed very hard. Sadly, I’m not sure my relationship with my wife is going to last. There are so many ways we are good for each other, and yet, there are so many ways that we both have become worse off than before we knew each other. In the final analysis, I think we are bad for each other. 10 years is a long time to throw away, but another 20 years wasted on top is insane. In the words of Tagome from King Arthur, “I will prepare.” just in case.