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Ideas are still forming themselves inside my head 8 months ago

but I thought I’d write down the things that are on my mind right now, in order to see my progress and the path on which I’m treading at the moment.

One big thing I would like to work on is my appearance. I’ve always sort of felt like that I haven’t reached the ideal me, the image I would like myself to be portrayed as to the outside world. I don’t always see a solid connection between my inner world and the reflection I see in the mirror. I don’t think I look bad, sometimes I look rather good actually, but I feel like there’s just something missing a lot of the time. I want to reach the portrayal that I have of myself inside my head. Maybe it’s just working on my own style that I need, I’m not sure. But I guess this is one of those things that just evolve gradually, with time. It’s not a simple thing. I’ll try to work on it somehow, in any case.
I think I’ll start with my hair. Some progress will be made when I finally get my hair cut (nothing spectacular in mind, just chopping the tips off because they’re in bad condition; I’m sort of lacking imagination when it comes to hair styles and cuts) and dyed bright red.
I’ll also pay attention to my wardrobe. I go through phases with my clothes, I grow out of some of them and some are just “always” there. I could try to sell the ones I don’t really use anymore and slowly get some new ones (but this isn’t a huge priority, I’m not planning on spending lots of money on this either).

I just need to have change every now and then. Not just with matters related to my appearance, but with a lot of things. They are mostly material things, though. I like to change my surroundings. Right now I’m actually feeling like doing something new to my flat.

Another area that I’m seeking to evolve in is my direction in life. It has always been a bit tough for me to know what to do with my life, I still haven’t found the thing I’m truly passionate about. I don’t know what I want to do “when I grow up” yet. This is the thing that’s causing me most of my worries and uncertainties. It would be so much easier if I already knew which way to go, which path to choose. But I haven’t figured it out yet. Right now I’m just sort of floating around aimlessly. I do enjoy my life, but it wouldn’t hurt to know what to aim for in the long run.
I’m planning on “dedicating” next summer for figuring these things out. I’ll dive into the information current of different professions and education programs. I hope I’ll find some more clarity that way and maybe even the thing that really makes me tick. (Juho has been especially supportive of me with this, it’s lovely to have him by my side.)

One more thing is balance. I would like to find a way to bring all of the different areas of my life together harmoniously, without something getting trampled on while others are put on a pedestal. I know this will be hard because there are after all a lot of things I’d like to have in my life (and a lot of things already are in my life), but I think it’ll be worth the effort.

That’s all for now, I think. My mind is bubbling with thoughts and ideas but it gets hard to grasp them when there are so many. They are wicked fast, too! But I’ll try to jot them down from time to time, when I manage it.

Apr 14, 08:21AM PDT | 7 cheers

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Maxime is back, for now!

Those all seem like good ideas.

I really hope you’ll find your real passion soon too, and decide what you’d want to do as a career. I think it’s not a lack of interests that causes the problem in your case, neither of talents. I’m sure there are plenty of things you’d be good at, but it’s always so difficult to find something we actually WANT to do.

I’m still trying to figure out on my side, too…

Evolve as much as you want, but make sure to not change your personnality. It’s so lovely. :)

Apr 14, 08:37AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

emiliakaarina happy poppy

:)

Thank you Max! I sure hope so, too. I do have interest in many many things but none of them really jump out from the crowd, I guess. I think I have a slight aversion to work so that makes things a bit difficult – it’s hard to figure what I’d actually like to be working on. :D But I should find it eventually. Something that wouldn’t even feel like work because I’d enjoy it. :)

Aww. :) I’m not changing myself, just building myself. The base structure will stay the same. So don’t worry. :D

^{I haven’t talked to you in ages properly! I’ve been so busy, and I still am busy – at least I’m supposed to be, but I hope we’ll get the chance to have nice chats again soon. :)}

Apr 14, 08:46AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

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The best career you can have will be one that will make you look forward to your work days. When work doesn’t feel like work, but like something you just enjoy doing everyday. :)

Everyone has a kind of aversion to work, everyone is a bit lazy, but when you like what you do, it doesn’t feel like work. Imagine, for example, how much you like taking pictures. For some people, taking pictures will seem to be a boring task, but for you it’s not the case. :)

^{Yeah, I was just thinking about that just yesterday night! I wanted to text you in the morning (Finland time) to wish you a good day and tell you that I miss talking to you, but I fell asleep too early. Everytime I get the chance to talk with you, I can’t stop smiling! I hope I’ll get this chance again soon. :)}

Apr 14, 09:13AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

emiliakaarina happy poppy

That would be ideal, yeah.
:)

^{How sweet. We’ll surely try to bump into each other! (Just swinged by on msn, but you were away. I’ll try to start doing stuff now. :P)}

Apr 14, 11:56AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

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Oh!

^{I’m always leaving my status on “away” now, so that I can answer to the customers faster and not having to worry about people wondering where I am. I was probably just in front of the screen, it’s been quiet today. :P}

Apr 14, 11:58AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

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It is always hard to find out what it is you really want. I don’t know if I have figured it out already too. It is also a pretty big decision and a very scary one! The thought that you’ll dedicate the rest of your life to a certain profession is always scaring the hell out of me, eventhough I really like what I do. I think you just might have the same ;).

And I do agree with Maxime, about liking your job so much it doesn’t feel like work. But then again, how much people can truly say their job is also their hobby and they never have a dull day at work. I think there are not that many :(.

It seems like a good idea to get a new haircut and wardrobe. Not that something is wrong with your current ones, but it can change your appearance quite a bit without going through too much trouble for it. I’m already curious about what your hair will look like haha!

Good luck with this goal! Keep us posted and if there is anything I can do for you, just let me know!

Apr 14, 11:06AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

emiliakaarina happy poppy

I agree with you, it’s hard and also scary!
But luckily it’s possible to get another profession later on if you feel like changing your mind. It’s not totally uncommon.
But it sure would be nice to find something that I’d enjoy doing for the rest of my life.

That’s true as well. Not everyone likes their job which is pretty sad, actually. But luckily there are still some people that truly enjoy their jobs, too.
Work is a tricky thing, hmm.

:) I’m hoping it’ll work. Don’t see a reason why it wouldn’t. :D Hehee, thanks, I’m looking forward to seeing my hair changed, too.

Thank you! :) I’ll do that, if something happens to come to mind!

Apr 14, 12:01PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

Scarlett you'd look stunning in anything

Updating your appearance/wardrobe is always a good idea, even a slight change is an instant pick-me-up. :)

I guess every young adult goes through this “what is my direction in life” phase at some point, and it’s actually a very good thing. You’re open to explore many different possibilities and most likely will find those things that interest you the most. The only problem here is that sometimes people have too idealistic hopes for their future. Of course it’d be great to have a job that doesn’t feel like a job at all but sometimes you just need to conform a little. I’d say most people didn’t have a burning passion to do the job they do now (not meaning to insult anyone, but who’d actually desire to be an accountant, for instance? :p) but they do it anyway.

In my opinion, work doesn’t need to be all joy and play, it’s what you do to get your bills paid and earn enough money to live your life outside work. I mean, work doesn’t have to be your whole life, it shouldn’t be, actually, so what’s important is what you do with your time off work. Maybe I’m being a bit too practical concerning this matter, I also would love to find a job that didn’t feel like a job but until I find it, a job that doesn’t cause me too much stress is sufficient enough. :)

Apr 14, 12:31PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 2 cheers

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To answer your question...

Someone deciding to become an accountant will be someone thinking like my father, for example. Some people just aim for the most remunerating jobs without wondering if they like it or not, because they think money causes happiness.

L’argent ne fait pas le bonheur, like we say in French.

Most people will work between 30 and 50 hours a week for their whole career, we better choose something we like! It’s way too much time to think only about money, we have to like what we’re doing or we’re gonna end up retiring after 30 years and thinking we wasted our life doing something we didn’t like.

Seeing my father always complaining about how much he dislikes his job, but that money is the only important thing, kind of made me sad all my life. He’s sacrifying himself 5 days a week just so that he can have money to spend on a house, a few cars, and a trip or two every year, lasting for a couple of weeks. It’s nice to have money, but are those things worth the whole boredom you get from a job you don’t like? I think it’s better to earn less money but at least be able to say you’re enjoying what you’re doing most of the time. Even if it’s not perfect.

I think the best thing is to compromise. Most jobs nowadays pay enough for someone to live their life correctly. Sure there are some low-remunerated jobs, like working in a fast-food place… but I think we can all agree to say that someone who chooses that as their career has no ambition! There’s no need to be rich, and sure money is necessary… but we just spend too much time working in our lives to decide to do a job only for the cash.

Apr 14, 01:16PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Scarlett you'd look stunning in anything

You're not getting the whole point here, Maxime.

Of course it’s important to like your job! I never said otherwise, I merely wanted to point out that sometimes, some people are just too idealistic. For instance: let’s say you love travelling. It’s your greatest passion in life. Now, how many occupations are there where you can truly travel all around the world and earn money while you’re at it? (and don’t say ‘become a pilot/flight attendant’, because those jobs are just about flying from one place to another) Or you love painting. You could become a painter. But can you really support yourself with that? You’d have to be really good these days. You see, if you concentrate on only searching for a job that satisfies your every need plus that doesn’t feel like you’re working, well, I’d say you’ll probably spend most of your life searching for it.

I’m not saying one should just settle for something to earn money. Money doesn’t bring happiness but it is much easier to concentrate on finding your passion when you have a roof over your head and your stomach full, don’t you think? ;)

I think most people, especially today’s young people, have become so picky when it comes to working. It’s all about getting that dream job immediately. It’s great to have ambition, as long as it’s realistic. Sure I’d love to travel in time and space but that’s not going to happen, no matter how ambitiously I want it, eh?

So, in a nutshell. I’m not saying anyone should just pick some random job and stick with it till retirement. I’m also not saying money is the only important thing. However, life is not always jolly and you can’t always get what you want the most. It’s important to keep your feet on the ground when pursuing your dreams. :)

Apr 14, 01:47PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

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Obviously!

But that’s why everyone has more than one passion. I love traveling, I think it’s mine. But I’m a salesman, so what’s the link? There isn’t any. Selling stuff is just something I really enjoy, and eventhough I wouldn’t consider it as my first and most important passion, it’s still something that I enjoy doing, to the point I usually look forward to go to work.

Take Emilia, for example. She’s a smart girl with a lot of potential, and I’m sure she’d be able to aim for a very remunerating job! But on the other hand, she’s picky about what she likes. What you said is right though, people usually are more picky nowadays about their dream job, but you have to be open-minded too. You are perfectly right on that point. And Emilia certainly has more than one passion too, she’s an emotional girl, full of passions! She just has to look through the passions she has to find one that would make a good career. I think her problem is that she loves so many things that she actually can’t choose. :P

A job is a job, and it’s certain we don’t like it EVERY single day. I love my job, and some days I’d like to stay home and relax, obviously. Everyone does. But I chose a career that won’t pay that much, eventhough I had the potential to stay in university longer and go for a very well paying job. I’ll probably never have a big house, neither a huge TV or luxury car. Still, I’m satisfied with what I am because I chose to compromise, and told myself that I was better to have a job I’d be not only happy with, but that I’d truly enjoy, instead of having something that I’ll like more or less, and always have to wait until the weekend or to my holidays so that I can enjoy my life.

And on the other hand, I don’t want to sound discriminatory but it takes all kinds of people to make a world. Emilia is smart and has potential, so she can choose what she wants to do. Some people don’t have that chance, they just take the job they can have, with the level of education they could complete, and they’ll fight through life with the tools they can get, eventhough it’s harder. Emilia doesn’t have to do this, she has that chance of having the choice, and people like her, like you, like me, should never forget about that. Some people like maths, they’ll go accountant. Some like languages, they’ll go in literature or translation or stuff like that. Some like science, they’ll go doctors or nurses. Some like to work with their hands, they’ll go mechanic, or carpenter, etc… Choosing a career for the money is for some who didn’t have the potential or the level of education to reach the level where they can really choose their career.

Apr 14, 02:07PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

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It’s a very complicated and personal subject. Whether it’s a job, a career, “what you do for a living”, it could have been something we pursued or something that just happened.
I believe for most people, a job is a job to pay the bills and hopefully, it fulfills some needs – financial, social. But for some lucky people, they know their passion early : be a doctor, be a painter. They do it and they’re good at it and they like it.
For me, I made choices based on what others suggested. “You’re good with numbers – be an accountant”. That was my major until I realized I did not want to be an accountant. I changed to computers until I realized I didn’t want to be a programmer. Some things aren’t clear until you try them on. But as we get older, it’s harder to make those changes – more responsibilities, more expectations.
2 years ago, I made a choice to leave a job after 20 years because it no longer gave me anything positive. No new job in site either. Best decision ever. Today, my job fulfills SOME needs – more money, more flexibility, less stress – but it is not my passion. I am still searching. I still don’t know what my passion is. I may never find it as a paying job either. I’m not worried. I am beginning to believe I’ll know it when I find it, as long as I keep searching.

Apr 15, 08:59AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

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Thanks for the comment! I very much agree with you and liked what you said. Work related things are very personal, individual and not very clear. People have so different opinions about working and careers and such. I personally would like to find something that I’d enjoy doing, because working does take such a big part of your life after all (in most cases). Something that wouldn’t make me irritated in the mornings for having to go to work. And I’d like to work because I liked what I’m doing, not just because it is expected of me or just because I need money. I understand that no one can like their job every single day, I wouldn’t even expect that. I do also realize that not all wishes come true and people need to be realistic, but I don’t think I’m asking for too much with my hopes. I’ll keep hoping that I’ll think of something that would inspire me. (And trying to avoid the angst about my uncertain future; that gets to me quite often.)
I’m glad to hear that you’re feeling positive about your situation. :) It was uplifting and comforting to hear that.
Things usually have a way of turning out alright in the end. Good luck with finding your passion!

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We gotta believe

our passion is out there…Good luck finding yours too!

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Those all seem like good ideas.

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You're not getting the whole point here, Maxime.

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