melb100 lives in edinburgh!

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I tracked down 7 months ago

an old friend from uni. We fell out years ago and haven’t spoken since. It was all my fault, but somehow I thought that ignoring him was easier than apologising, even though it meant I lost a good friend. I finally sent him my apology, and we have been exchanging life news. Hopefully we will be able to meet up once I’m back in the country. I am not sure that, in his place, I would have accepted the apology with such grace, but it has given me something to aspire to.
Note to self: when it comes to grudge holding, be more like him, less like me.

May 07, 08:09PM PDT | 8 cheers


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wren is mightier than grief.

Wow!

I’m impressed. That is a great feat of overcoming ego. I’m glad it paid off!

May 07, 08:25PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 3 cheers

melb100 lives in edinburgh!

Not so impressive

when you consider that i should have done it five years ago!! I just feel like such a fool for leaving it this long! I’ve lost five years of friendship over something incredibly petty – all I can do is promise never to let it happen again.

May 07, 09:41PM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

Dave is considering coming back to 43T

way to go, Melb.

This is a bigger deal than you imply in your note. Not only is it a great challenge to confront our mistakes and accept blame, but it is equally difficult, I think, to set aside the emotional damage of being wronged, and accept the apology.

You are a better person, and so is your friend from Uni. There is no statute of limitations on apologies. We should all be putting our grudges to bed for our own good, all the time.

Note to self: be more like melb100.

May 10, 06:33AM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer


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