Read Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch. Changed my life, my marriage, my sexuality, everything; helped me grow up and become a better and more open person.

As you may know from my list I am a widow. One thing I have always been grateful for is that my husband and I did this work BEFORE his sudden death. It is the peace and heat and clarity we had in our last few years that has sustained me, and ptrevented me from being another bitter middle-aged “Awww, men suck,” kind of woman.

And Flash, if you read and really apply Schnarch’s book, I guaran-damn-tee you it will also take care of #10 on your list!