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Let go of the past
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I have had one particularly bad relationship which I am finding it extremely difficult to completely let go of. No matter how this guy talks to me I seem to always go back to him and want ‘to be friends’, of course always hoping for more. He says he wants my frienship but then gives me monosyllabic responses to questions and never asks me about my life, what im thinking or how i feel about anything. I think its a joke. I have to move on from him but letting go for some bizarre reason is proving harder than I anticipated. I have that little devil on my shoulder whispering to me ‘what if’. I do not want anymore what ifs. I know he does not have feelings for me, and in reality I do not like him. I keep blaming myself for pushing him away when in reality he never cared much in the first place. I need to stop blaming myself, stop dwelling on the what ifs and start focusing on the positive things in my life.



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You might not be ready for this yet but...

To let go isn’t to forget, not to think about, or ignore. It doesn’t leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting go isn’t about winning or losing. It’s not about pride and it’s not about how you appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past. Letting go isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and doesn’t leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness. It’s not about giving in or giving up. Letting go isn’t about loss and it’s not about defeat. To let go is to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on. It is having an open mind confidence in the future. Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing. To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain. Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing up. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.
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tzaritza6117 is writing.

Thats really beautiful. Thank you. That has given me a lot to think about. I think, athough I really want to let go, I’m in no way ready to do that. Thanks again for the post :) it is really very thought provoking.

Hi there!

Thank you for your thank you. I am pleased to hear that this is providing comfort to you. I experienced something similar letting go of someone I truly loved. It was hard (it’s taken me years) but eventually it got easier, and somehow I got happier. I used to believe that I’d never get over losing him. But I did. It didn’t happen automatically. I had to do things. This is your first step. You have to reach this point first – where you are ready to try anything… blessing your way:)

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Really inspiring post

Hey, thankyou for posting this – as tzaritza6117 says it really is very thought provoking and profound. I have found it so useful over the life crises i’ve been through recently; i read it over and over again so many times that eventually i printed it out & now keep a copy in my bag to refer to everytime i feel lost,despondant,negative etc.. Its a lovely message, reassuring & very life-affirming – thankyou!


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