so my big master plan after dropping out of college was to go to new orleans for 2 or 3 weeks and then move to the bay area. spend time in san francisco, probably live in oakland because that’s more affordable. well 2 things happened while i was in new orleans. 1)i fell in love with new orleans and the people there and decided i didn’t want to leave, and 2)my boyfriend, who lives in san francisco, broke up with me. i still want to go to the bay area, but it’s just not as urgent anymore. and i’m not stressed about getting there as soon as possible. it was hard before, when i had to keep reassuring harj that i was planning to get there soon, while at the same time knowing that it would be hard to leave NO. so it’s weird, i’m making a lot of big changes and plans in my life, and it’s exciting. harj and i are still really close (and we still love each other, it’s complicated) and he still really wants to see me. even if we hadn’t broken up, i couldn’t have prioritized him over new orleans. i was starting to do that, and i knew it would be a mistake (not that i was going to california just for him; i know a lot of people there and i went there in september to see if i’d like it…it’s a beautiful place with an awesome radical community, etc). so yeah, i ended up staying in new orleans for 4 weeks, went to philly just for the holidays, and i’ll be going back down south next week, and i’ll be there indefinitely. i think my goal is to get to the bay area by march, so we’ll see.