“What did you say to my father?”
- I told him what I’ve told you, that I don’t think we will stay married. I’ve been unhappy for a very long time, but waiting for the boys to be old enough.

“Who else have you told? I need to know so I will know if it’s coming back to me”
- I told your brother and sister, your dad, and the boys.

“Why do you want to have my family over here on Fathers’ Day?”
- because it’s Fathers’ Day and I like them. I’d like to have them over.
“We are going to (Sister in Law’s) house.”
- Does she know? Does your Dad know?
“It was (Sister in Law’s) job to invite people.

“You are doing the same thing with this marriage that you did with your first marriage. Talking too much.”
- (to myself … yes, last time I made a decision in about three weeks, but now there are kids. )

“I don’t want you talking to my family about this.”
- you can’t control who I speak to. (note: I know, I should have said, “You don’t get to decide to whom I speak.”)

“You’re not gone yet, and you shouldn’t be talking about this”
- no, I’m not gone yet.

notice: no indication that I am wrong, or that I’m completely missing her devotion and love and admiration of me.