The best guage is when I asked S. if she noticed how much better I was doing. She responded immediately that my control was much better. I’m not perfect and I won’t say I don’t get angry, or very frustrated, but the way I express it and the way I let it make me feel and react I have much more control over. By consciously choosing my responses, I have created a way to see the whole picture and relative value of whatever I was upset about. I am even more sensitive to those around me who react out of anger (and there are a lot of them). Some I can talk to and help them put their reaction into context to the aggravation, others I can only stand aside and say “There but for the grace of fates…”