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Being a Leader is Lonely 6 months ago

I’m developing a public profile which is good, but what it also means is that I have a conflict- when I am having a bad day I have avoided expressing it, for fear of not setting a good example.

I am conflicted about this because on one hand I believe that having someone who appears to be something that I want to be is hugely inspiring, yet at the same time i also believe that the best example is being totally honest- because people can really relate to pain/struggle & they’re likely to have been in that place themselves at some point in their lives- which is a good way to connect to them.
However, it may be more useful to only share retrospectively…

what do you think?

Are you inspired when someone shares openly & honestly – warts, defects & weaknesses & you can witness the process of them finding solutions…

or do you prefer to see a leader appear to be successful

or would you like to know that they have experienced difficulties- but only when they’ve found the solutions….

which option do you think is more inspiring, more motivating?

Jul 09, 05:26AM PDT | 2 cheers


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Jul 09, 06:59AM PDT

LL is EXCITED! Matty got his visa!!

I think it's context dependent...

and dependent somewhat on what you mean by ‘public profile’. Certainly, if you’re referring to a leadership role in a practitioner-client sense, there’s a general demand to perform to a ‘professional standard’ – in which case retrospective sharing is probably most appropriate, if at all.

However, there’s something to be said for modelling positive/mature/effective strategies for dealing with life’s ups and downs – in the right hands, with the right audience, that honesty can be truly inspiring.

Some people will be open and honest enough to appreciate what you offer them – and learn from your experiences and examples. Unfortunately, others (perhaps driven by selfishness or misery) may seek to use any ‘admissions’ against you. The key may be in evaluating your audience and selecting the approach which will benefit the both of you – whether that be uniform, or tailored to suit the individuals.

Jul 13, 07:28AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 4 cheers

SlayneB is presently internetless but will be back soon!

I agree

with LL, you have to tailor this to the individual.

Jul 17, 10:54PM PDT | Respond to this


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