I don’t know how to describe my “condition.” I’m a person who looks for positive feedback from the people with whom I am in a relationship on a daily basis.

This may sound normal and to be expected, but it is not always the case.

I’ve been in signficant other relationships where the other person would “disappear” for days. It sometimes wasn’t that they were avoiding communication; rather, they didn’t either have the desire or make the time or priority to “connect” on a daily basis.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I need to have feelings of “connection” or solid, affirming communicaiton every day. But I want it most days. And “daily” is my preference.

Why am I mentioning all this?

In dating, or in choosing a significant other, you should do the best you can to determine if the other person not only likes you, but also try to answer these questions:

a) Do they want to make time to communicate as often as I do?
b) Do they want to feel “connected” at a similar rate of frequency? Or do they need significant personal space time away?

It’s not necessarily good or bad to want to feel communicated with and connected more frequently or less frequently. But it may be very important, pleasant, and healthier to choose a significant other who looks for similar frequencies and kinds of positive feedback patterns.

If you want to “connect” daily, and they disappear for days at a time, that may say nothing bad about either of you, but it could lead to signficant conflict and heartache.