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Figure out our living situation (read all 8 entries…)
Warning: Therapeutic ranty post intended for thought collection & stress relief

It’s continuing to be a rough week. The more we’ve looked into what happened, the more frustrating it is. The papers the landlord gave us were illegal – a 2 month notice to end tenancy is issued only for landlord’s use of property (or that of his immediate family), conversion into subsidized housing, or the house being sold and the new owners giving him a document saying we’re to be replaced by family members. None of these things are even remotely valid.

The tenancy branch said we’d have won arbitration in a second, but we had to fight it within 15 days of receiving it, and the time limit has run out. At this point, saying we trusted he was being honest with us (about being required to end a tenancy with the old owner before starting one with the new, and about the new tenants wanting to keep us for the same terms) won’t cut it.

The capper? The new owners came by to collect rent from us yesterday. He apparently told them that was fine, even though our lease with him ends in September and he’s required by law to give us a free month’s rent. The new fellow came in and we all had a long talk – it looks like we’re all being screwed by the old owner, who, in turns out had 3 mortgages on this place and collectors on his ass, and sold to them for $125K less than another offer because they agreed to forfeit their right to have the place inspected, and the realtor assured them they could get rid of us or charge us whatever they wanted (true NOW, but if we’d known about any of this, they’d have been stuck with us at only $30 more, so he lied to them too).

ANYHOW – the new owner is very nice. We told him about some of the problems with the place, the things we’d done to fix it up. He said they were really impressed with how clean and nice it was down here compared to all the other houses they’d seen and were really hoping we could stay. Unfortunately neither of us can afford what the other requires for that to happen (unless we want to stop saving for our own down payment or doing anything other than eating beans).

They’ve offered us at least September at our current rate, which is very fair of them, (because of that damn bogus form, we’re supposed to leave), and if we need a little more time, we could stay on at their proposed rent, which they’ve dropped a bit. The best option open to us will be to move, which between decent places being very hard to find and the actual process of packing and leaving our HOME, is a whole new ball of stress.

It’s just been so exhausting. I’m not sleeping, I’m getting sick, and we’re breaking record temperatures here every day (we broke the hottest day ever 2 days in a row, no end in sight) which doesn’t help. Whenever I find myself complaining about the killer heat/humidity, I just think about Markus out there, working in the sun. My poor honey. Hopefully this wave will break soon.

Hopefully in a few months from now, we’ll be in a better place with less stuff and less noise. If we don’t find something right away, we won’t be out on the street – if we have to bite the bullet for a month or two beyond September, we’ll do it, and the option is a relief. We’re crossing our fingers that something good will come up somewhere. We’re still very sad we missed that other place. We’d still very mad we got totally screwed.

Trying to look at the bright side: fresh start, new place, less clutter, change… I’d just like to fast forward to those things now please.



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Thank-you :)

I just spent the last 10 minutes staring into the abyss of chaos in the garage, panicking, and coming back inside for another cup of cold coffee.

I’m sure everything will work out in the long run.

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yogamom07 Stepping it up a few notches

Ru--- Be Strong

I’m so sorry about the stress you are going through. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Everything happens for a reason. Try to relax and do one thing at a time (from looking for another place to packing the garage). Take deep breaths and lots of coffee breaks and you will do just fine.

What a stressful situation

Sounds like this landlord well and truly messed everyone about. (As a note to myself, reading your story I am now more wary of signing things in future.)

But, in the grand scheme of things, this will pass and you will find a lovely new home. It might take a little time and effort but I am sure there are options out there for you.

Maybe the change is good. When things don’t work out the way I want, sometimes the ultimate outcome actually works out even better. You just can never see it until you get there.

As for packing and decluttering and getting ready to move out, September is a long way away. A lot can be achieved in that time, especially if you break it down into bitesized pieces. And think how good you would feel if you did some decluttering / slimlining of your possessions!

Remember that things are usually never as bad as they seem. Hugs Ru.

Hope?

A rental ad for this lovely little place (2br downstairs, laundry, yard, cat ok) just went up. It’s 10 blocks away, totally in our price range, and available tomorrow.

The opening is tonight, so we’re going to go check it out. Cross some fingers out there for us? Oh look at the little roses…

If we get a place for August, the rent here is still free, so we could swing it, and have a month to move in.

That's a lovely

house. It looks like home. Hope it works out. for you, Ru.

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HippieChick2 ♥ Part Deux ♥ 2013 is our year of FUN!!! ♥

This little house looks so inviting

I have my fingers crossed for you Ru!!!

bp radiate, open lips, keep smiling for me.

This is beautiful!

Hawk~ staring down the barrel of the cold hard truth

Wow!

Go Ru!

Keep us posted.

Fingers crossed…

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wren You'll not see nothing like the mighty wren!

What an awful situation!

I hope everything works out for you with the pretty house with the roses!!!!!

Ru..

Good luck on the house. I have my fingers crossed!

For those of you who are landlords & ladies...

I know a number of you are, and several of you are looking for tenants. What would you say your top 3 reasons are for choosing someone? Personal vibe? Cash in hand? References? Appearance? They smell good and offer to paint?

If you have a minute, this would be helpful to hear directly. The market here is really tough, and if we find something we like, we’ll probably be up against a hoard of other people. I’ve rented before, and have gotten the places I’ve actually put in an application for in the past, but the market is different (and there are more of us now).

As a landlord...

My top 3 reasons

  • references (inc finances/employment – for reliability and affordability)
  • not demanding (not requiring work or additional potentially unnecessary items or offering to buy/do themselves – obviously if they buy they keep the items)
  • generally nice people (perhaps I’d bargain harder if I didn’t like them – I’m after stability and no hassle and if possible longer term tenants)

Hope this helps

Sorry I’m not a landlord in your area!

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tikini tikiniland ~ where it is always summertime

From the POV of an absentee landlord

I am drawn to tenants who show they really care about the house, and offer to keep up the yard and are not shy about dealing with maintenance issues. The kind of tenant I do not want is the one who has to call a plumber if they flush too much paper down the toilet instead of using the plunger.

The market is so terrible where we come from from the POV of the landlord that I would not be much help. It is the opposite – few renters, and then they want to dictate terms, and that makes me uncomfortable.

I am not a manager type – I like to turn over my house to a tenant who will treat it with the same respect they would if their name was on the deed instead of the lease. I think we are all just passing through, and stewards of the land and the abodes. So, respectful attitude and a sense of caring.

Hope this is some help, and good luck in your search.

aloha!

Temptation

Maybe we should just put everything in storage, focus on another big goal – elope and come stay there for a month or two… ;) It’s so gorgeous, I’ve always wanted to go back… today would do. I’d much rather snorkel with the sea turtles and boxfish than surf crap-holes here. Take an extra breath of your exquisite air for me…

tikini tikiniland ~ where it is always summertime

elope!!!

But wait just a wee bit of time. the wedding pavilion will be ready in another couple of months and then you can elope in grand style.

If wishes were fishes

It honestly sounds like heaven.

LGS

I don't know what to say...

...it’s a despicable thing that has been done to you. I hope you find the most wonderful new home very, very soon.
x

FireRainChild Dive down, drink deep, you will remember how to breathe

We are all

praying/sending good vibes/good voodoo you way!

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Librarian dancing with hope and determination

Thought of you...

when I heard news reports of the heat wave up there. We seem to be getting your weather down here in Missouri and you’re getting ours. Of course, we’re used to it and most of us have air conditioning. Not a fair trade, it seems.

Sending you positive home energies. If it comes to that for awhile, I have a good recipe for beans. :-)

For the love of beans

Unfortunately, although I’m sure they would have loved to have us, the suite was an absolute crap hole. Comparable to the state of this place when we moved in, only Isak could touch the ceiling, the “master bedroom” wouldn’t even have fit our bed, the kitchen was in the living room (not in a cute way), and it was dark and stinky (I could tell why cats were allowed, generations had obviously been born and possibly died there) and there were chunks of paint peeling out of the wall. It was very, very disappointing. The fellow cheerfully explained that they would get around to doing the repairs and we could paint it if we liked. We didn’t stay long.

Even more ridiculous? On our nightly walks we’d seen a rent sign and drove by to get the phone number. As I was about to take a photo, our new owners came out – it turns out it’s the place they’re moving out of! We had a laugh over it – they’d already told us is was expensive, nasty and has bugs. Damn – I’m SO afraid of moving into a place with bedbugs… they’re a citywide issue I’d like to continue never experiencing.

I came home feeling thoroughly disheartened and ended up being attacked by the worst migraine I’ve had in months, spent last night crying in front of the toilet (on the lovely floor we put in). I want to stay here, in our home, in the place we worked so hard to make feel that way. Until we can actually own a place ourselves.

Damn – I wish they could see how much easier and better it would be for everyone if they accepted less money than they were expecting and just let us stay. I wish we’d have realized we were being bamboozled by the old owner. Ahhh – I need to stop pipe dreaming and kicking myself for past mistakes and try to keep looking forward. Something will work out.

Thanks to all for your input, support, ideas, and offers of bean recipes. Frankly, I love beans – baked, garbanzo, coffee… hit me!

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FireRainChild Dive down, drink deep, you will remember how to breathe

I have a really nice hummus recipe

from Tarrador
And that way sucks! The outside of that house is so cute! Suck suck suck suck suckade suck!

Still praying for you!

Tarrador had fun, while it lasted

A pox...

on your old landlord, a pox I say! My heart is thoroughly broken for you in this situation. Currently renting a house even older than I am (yikes), that hasn’t been fixed up in the 21st century, we’ve focused on buying a house and making it our own, too. I understand your pain, frustration, dismay…

Regardless of the things you could’ve done to address this scam by your landlord, don’t blame yourselves! You were trusting, honest with him, believing that he would appreciate you as tennents and be thoughtful of your well-being since you took such good care of his place. Failing all that you trusted there would be a back-up system to address unfair issues because you believe there shouldn’t be a time limit on doing what is right and just. Even with your new owners you have been gracious, honest, kind and agreeable. You have been open-hearted and some disreputable person has taken advantage of you. That is not your fault. And you are entitled to feel hurt, worried, uncertain and even angry.

The only consolation I can offer is my best thoughts and wishes for you and your family during this most trying time. Stay open-hearted and open-minded and the next house you get (be it rental or owned) will be just as filled with the feelings of home.

Sending you waves of positive house-getting energies. Oh, and a dried lentil soup recipe to tide you over. Reheats really well.

Lentil Spinach Soup Recipe

2 med. onions
1 clove garlic, finely chopped
2 tablespoons vegetable or olive oil
3 cups water
1 teaspoon. salt
8 ounces dried lentils (about 1 1/4 cups)
1 teaspoon grated lemon peel
2 teaspoon lemon juice
10 oz. fresh spinach, chopped (about 4 cups) [or] 1 10 oz. pkg. frozen chopped spinach, thawed

Cook and stir onions and garlic in oil in 3 qt. saucepan over med. heat until onions are tender. Stir in water, salt and lentils. Heat to boiling; reduce heat until just simmering. Cover and simmer 1 hour or until the lentils are soft (not mushy). Stir in lemon peel, lemon juice and spinach. Cover and simmer until spinach is tender, about 5 minutes.
And Ru, you can try this with mustard greens, kale, or any other hearty green. To spice it up toss in some diced tomatoes and sprinkle in curry, or add lima beans and bell peppers for more texture.

That sounds delicious!

Thank you so much for both the thoughts and the yummy sounding recipe! (slurp).
Something will work out somehow. It will.

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Up and down

We’re still shocked too – we’re on a roller coaster of feeling shocked, hurt, angry, scared, gullible, and really, really sad. There’s some good “woo-hoo, change!” in there too, but it’s pretty faint.

I’ve gotten a few opinions from different sources, both of which agreed: YES we’ve being totally screwed, YES our rights have been violated, but NO we can’t do anything about it at this point because our time to appeal (14 days) ran out before we even had an inkling we’d been screwed.

The Powers That Be don’t care we were lied to or that we didn’t have all the relevant details due to circumstances beyond our control, they just look at the calendar and say too bad, so sad, have a nice day.

There is one option that might work, but it would require rolling around in the dirt in a way that we’re not willing to do. We’d rather gather up our wounded but wiser selves and move on.

IF we can find a place to move on to…

the old owner

has brought such bad karma on himself. Hard to imagine. All best wishes to you!

maromera celebrating to be right here and right now in friendship with God

Ru

A big hug for you.
Everything is going to be perfect, you will find a wonderful place. You are so good people that wherever you go is going to become a warm home full of love and amazing surprises to enjoy and discover.

Can't the old landlord

be sued for fraud or anything? I’m not normally litigious, but this guy screwed you over big time, and the new owners as well. He was dishonest in his dealings. I am surprised there is no recourse!

Good luck, I’m sorry you have this kind of pressure on you!

It's terrible...

...I pray that good will come out of this and that you start to get over your initial shock and are able to sleep again, Ru. It’s unfortunate that the old landlord did not care a rat’s ass for your family and lied to you. I hope it doesn’t affect your trust in others. There are good people out there, just not this jerk.


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