I don’t get it. You either want a child or you don’t. He keeps saying he’s on the fence. He’s worried about losing freedom, money, time, etc, which is dumb because I did 90% of the work with our son. I breastfed him exclusively. He never had to prepare bottles. I did 100% of his baths. I washed all the diapers. The most he ever had to do was get them out of the dryer. He was in a band, practiced once a week and still had his gigs every Friday. He did ALL this while we had a baby. It’s not going to change! I will do everything for our second child that I did with our first.

And yes, we can afford it. Our income has increased by $40,000 per year. Of course, we have the expense of a new house but I’ve also paid off $14,000 in credit cards and student loans since our son came. WE SURVIVED OUR SON, so how would a second baby be so much harder?

The worst thing is I’m not allowed to talk about the baby AT ALL because every time I bring it up it pushes him away more. Whatever!!!