I’ve had further thoughts about asexualism, following some comments I exchanged with someone on here who appears to be in a similar situation. I’ve been considering for awhile if I may be asexual, but i’ve decided i’m not. If i’m being honest, i’m interested in men, and I know this. Telling myself that i’m asexual has been helpful in keeping myself focused on staying single and getting to know who I am, but I am lying to myself, and hiding from the truth, if I tell myself that men don’t attract me.

At this time in my life however, I am not that interested in sex. I’ve been thinking about why, and have come to the conclusion that it’s because I haven’t met anyone who interests me enough to want to have sex with them. I thought this was the case with asexualism to begin with. I thought that I was asexual because there wasn’t anyone I knew that interested me enough for me to find them attractive. I think that has changed though… I’m not sure. But I know that I find men attractive. In time, I may find someone that i’m attracted to enough that I want to have sex with them, but at this stage i’m not asexual, I do find men attractive, i’m just not that interested in sex.

I’m getting to know myself pretty well. :)