when my MIL hounded me about when we were going to be there for dinner tonight….and I told her that I was helping church out to serve dinner – I told her we’d be there when we could – that people were waiting on us to eat their only cooked meal that day. I did not bite back; I just hope she could understand. Today at Christmas at their house, I ignored a lot of the little insidious comments (like the one where she commented her sister-in-law broke up her nephew’s marriage – I did not say – well, what do you think you are doing to mine?) – and we got along pretty famously….