That did come across as harsh, although I don’t believe you meant it that way. Clearly you have not read all of my posts or you would know that there are a great number of things in my life that are both positive and inspirational, and that I am someone who always strives to choose happiness. :) I think I’m not the only one to use 43T to pour out emotions that cannot be expressed anywhere else in my life due to my circumstances. We are none of us perfect, and occasionally when you are in a toxic environment for over 40 hours a week it can begin to wear on your soul a little, and it is wonderful to be able to vent where there are others to listen. I do appreciate your encouragement.

Clearly you recognize that the words coming out of your typing fingers were pretty ugly, for you to have added “not to sound insenstive or anything.”

It seems a shame that someone typing a message of “cheer up” doesn’t seem to realize that being incredibly and across the board insulting probably isn’t going to get her/his message across very effectively.

Your EST-inspired techniques of berating someone who already feels like she gets too much crap from the people around her is probably not a good way to get her to smile and hope for the world.

Just sayin’.

a lot of your posts, and I can say without fear of contradiction that your life is positive, wonderful and inspirational not just to you, but to others who encounter you. I read you posts about how unhappy you are in your job and never suscribed it to an “orgy of self pity”. You have had doubts, fears, anger and disappointment, but never did I perceive you in a corner feeling sorry for yourself.

I’m glad this woman is making your boss look like a fool. He has let you down many times by failing to provide leadership and management. I’m glad you are getting and feeling the validation you deserve. I understand what you are feeling and it isn’t self-pity. You have shown great discipline and patience, gauging the responsibilities you had and where your job fit in. You have not helplessly “allowed” you boss and co-workers power over you, beyond the extent we all allow others to have some power over us. You have tried to bridge the distance between them and you, with them not reaching out and you overextending in your kind way. Sometimes when you overextend you break a little. So, let some steam out through those cracks. Its okay to vent as mercilessly as you need to.

You’ve got soooo many good things going on in your life right now, this issue with your job can’t help but get swept away in the rising tide. Rather than, “chin up, smile, hope”, how about open your arms and prepare to receive the wonderful things coming to you because of the wonderful energy you’ve generated.

Open your arms wide.