We are hosting a 16-year-old girl through AFS from western China, and it has been an awful experience for the past 5 months. She came with no desire to help, she didn’t know (nor wanted to learn) how to do any chores. She wanted to just watch tv and eat at MacDonald’s. She has defied me, and been obstinate. She is extremely rude, lazy, selfish, self-centered, no compassion, and wants, wants, wants. Her family in China owns 3 homes, and her parents work for the government. She was the “Empress” in her family. My 15-year-old daughter is getting headaches from her rude and inconsiderate and bullying behavior.
She claimed she had no money, but suddenly she now wants us to take her across the country to NYC, and says now that $1,000 is nothing to her (it is to us!). I can’t afford all this. She is rude, nasty, disrepectful, and has an anger management problem (which her mother confirmed).
She teaches us nothing about China, but puts us down because we don’t know much about it. All we hear about is the 5,000 year history, but nothing about that history. My daughter desperately wanted a Chinese exchange student because she, herself, was interested in visiting China. Now, we are really re-thinking it all.
I would never do a year-long exchange again. She lied on her application form—said she was all these things she wasn’t. You’d think that being a guest for an entire year in someone’s home, who does not get paid for it, but volunteers out of the goodness of their hearts to give someone a good experience, would have a little gratitude.
Sorry, but it’s all the luck of the draw. I think it COULD be a good experience, but ours turned out to be an awful experience. I hope when she returns home there is an ounce of conscience that allows her to maybe, just maybe, be grateful for all we have done for her. But the way things are going, I doubt it. Hope others have better experiences.