and please please answer.

What do you do when someone leaves a nasty reply to one or more of your entries?
It doesn’t really happen much. I usually make a note in my head about what that person is like and remember to expect that from them or just stay away. I do my best not to get into an arguement.

Does this happen to you?People have left comments that i didn’t like, yes.
How often does it happen?Not often
Does it make a difference if the post is really personal compared to just an ordinary post? A personal one would hurt more Have you ever not posted something because of how someone may reply to it? Oh yes! There are things I don’t post here. Opinions I have on subjects that I do not share here Has there ever been an entry that someone else made that you just HAD to say something unpleasant to? Yes, one time …I think. The whole reason I joined this site was to say something to someone who had all of these goals about being a subservient wife. What do you do when you come across an entry that someone has wrote that you don’t like?I might ask them something about it. I do not want to stir up a bunch of trouble here. That’s not what I am here for. There are all types here so I know there are many things posted that I will disagree with. I remember when I first started I saw this woman with a goal about killing a deer. IT really upset me. Her whole page and that goal upset me. I went to comment on her goal and I accidentally cheered it! Horrifying!!!

I was horrified and really hurt the first time someone posted rude comments to my posts and was thinking of deleting my account I had alot of stuff going on and that was the icing on the cake for me, but then I thought I do this for me so, who cares who don’t like my stuff they can leave me alone or block me if it makes them feel better. It’s only happened a few times, Like I said it hurts I try not to be rude or stuff any of my views down on anyone. I wish I didn’t response to a post cause it keep going back and forth but, now I just let it go it’s just not worth it to me to fight about who’s right and who’s wrong. if it’s not a comment to something I said I can let it go, but sometimes I do PM them

If it is a ridiculous comment, I just delete it.

It tends to lower the back and forth business and stop whatever the problem was.

If it was just something I didn’t want to see , i tend to think about it more carefully.

But rude and nasty. they have that delete button for a reason!!

upset some people when I commented about food and eating, about 6 monbths ago. They got VERY strong with me and criticised me sharply. And then about 3 or 4 people unsubcribed from me.

I thought about it for a bit, apologised to a good friend on here whom I had inadvertently hurt through my comment/ post, and simply chose not to engage with the criticism.

I realised that the issue I had commented on was a difficult one for many, and it aroused strong negative emotions.

So, I suppose that I AVOIDED the issue by WITHDRAWING.

But I am sorry if I hurt anyone’s feelings.

What do you do when someone leaves a nasty reply to one or more of your entries?

It depends on whether I deserved the reply or not, and who specifically is making the nasty comment.

Does this happen to you? How often does it happen?

It has happened at times, but not very often.

Does it make a difference if the post is really personal compared to just an ordinary post?

No, but I’m more likely to get in this situation by commenting on other people’s entries than on things I’ve written myself.

Have you ever not posted something because of how someone may reply to it?

No. I have not posted things because this is a public website and there are certain things I don’t want public.

Has there ever been an entry that someone else made that you just HAD to say something unpleasant to?

Yes, though I try to do it in such a way that the person sees I’m trying to help them not harm them.

What do you do when you come across an entry that someone has wrote that you don’t like?

I tend to ignore it and go about doing other things.

Your options in dealing with this person are to block them, which will mean they cannot comment on any of your entries. Or you can ignore them, because most people will eventually get tired and bored when they don’t elicit a response.

a few negative and off color comments posted to me once in a while.

What do you do when someone leaves a nasty reply to one or more of your entries?
I might reply, or not
I’ve written a lot here, some of it from the depth of my being…

Does this happen to you? 
  Once in a while it has

Does it make a difference if the post is really personal compared to just an ordinary post? 
 I may be more upset if it's a personal post

Have you ever not posted something because of how someone may reply to it?
No, I’ve always posted just as I’ve seen fit to do…

Has there ever been an entry that someone else made that you just HAD to say something unpleasant to?
There have been a few. I’ve not purposely tried not to be insulting or abusive, except during those times when that was exactly what was called for. BUT, I use my own threads for 99% of that. I almost always refuse to invade someone elses pages unless they are spammers…

What do you do when you come across an entry that someone has wrote that you don’t like?.
Almost always ignore it.
I have retaliated before for people abusing the privilege of using this website however.
Some things are never right and should be addressed…

‘Preciate it.

What do you do when someone leaves a nasty reply to one or more of your entries?

Usually I delete them. I make it a point to be as nice as possible on 43t. Way nicer than I am in reality. 43t is my little bubble of encouragement and cheers and I don’t want anyone to ruin it.

Does it make a difference if the post is really personal compared to just an ordinary post?

Of course. Someone left me a snide comment on a drawing I post once. I felt a little disheartened. But I was still proud of my idea…so fuck em.
On the other hand, I posted a very personal and encouraging response to someone’s entry once, about a mutual problem that we shared. Someone responded to my response telling me to suck it up and quit being whiny for attention and maybe I’d be better off if I let my problems overcome me. It was so negative and so uncalled for…I was so offended and taken aback because I RARELY open up like I did…anyone who has ever read any of my entries can tell that…and some random person completely disregarded me. I felt embarrassed and hurt.

Have you ever not posted something because of how someone may reply to it?

Yes and no. I try to be extra encouraging on here since thats what this site is about. I try not to post anything negative unless it is totally called for.

Has there ever been an entry that someone else made that you just HAD to say something unpleasant to?

Probably. I can’t think of any off the top of my head, but I’m sure I have.

What do you do when you come across an entry that someone has wrote that you don’t like?

I ignore it, unless it really affects me. Then I say what I have to.

Lauraly, I LOVE reading your entries on 43t. I’m not subscribed to many people, and you’re one of them. I would hate to think that some jerk said something offensive that would keep you off of here.
A lot of us will really miss hearing from you.

Either way, I wish you the best and hope to run into you again, whether it’s here or on another site. :)

What do you do when someone leaves a nasty reply to one or more of your entries?
Someone who I blocked wrote a couple nasty posts. I didn’t really do anything. I felt like they were free to write whatever they want on their own page, I’ve had a few odd posts where it felt like someone was critiquing or editing what I ‘should’ write, and I just thought it was odd. And I have deleted a few nonsense comments.

Does this happen to you? How often does it happen? Does it make a difference if the post is really personal compared to just an ordinary post?
It didn’t happen for the first three or four years. 43things was shangri-la for me. The nasty posts were vindictive in a very petty way and it seemed to reflect more on him. One of the things he did was ridicule my use of therapy which doesn’t seem to be a very effective way to insult someone on here.

Have you ever not posted something because of how someone may reply to it? Has there ever been an entry that someone else made that you just HAD to say something unpleasant to? What do you do when you come across an entry that someone has wrote that you don’t like?
It’s always more information about all of us. We mostly barely know each other. I have a few real friends on this site (people I spend time with or talk with offsite), and their posts are reliable. I’ve refrained from writing certain things, and also wrote things even though some people may think I’m stirring a pot. I’ve done some soul searching around this. Because we can’t hide our profiles from people we might want to, it creates a layer of unsafety that has felt moderately disturbing to me since having a bad experience myself here. I also feel like if I don’t like what a person writes, I shouldn’t read their page, and if they make comments directly to me, I can block them. I still want 43things to make it so we can ‘hide’. I think this would help a lot.