I have a huge tendancy to be extremely blunt in my life, which more often than not I view as a good thing, but I feel i’m too hard on my little lady. I want to make her feel like she is the perfect lady i know and feel she is. I feel like when I point out thigns I don’t like or might not be too pleased with, she takes it extremely personal. I often find myself saying things like “it’s not that big of a deal” or “I’m just saying it, it’s not a huge issue” but than I feel like of course she’s goign to take it personal, i’m the love of her life right? why shouldnt’ she…. Idk maybe If it isn’t that big of a deal, I just shouldnt’ say anything?

It’s somethign a struggle with, part of me says “Be 100 percent h onest with everythign adn tell her everything” which includes everythign that might upset me, or make me a little upset and just b ehonest, adn we could talk about it”no big deal” but It’s just not that easy in practice. i feel she does take it personally… and than part of me feels like just not saying anythign at all… but I just dont’ want to hold the little things in cause than they will build up and become huge you know?

Idk… maybe their is a way to make it clear that they aren’t HUGE issues and i’m just letting her know to be open with her? but it’s also in the way I speak… if it’s a huge issue or a small issue, for the most part i say it in the same way. I always speak with such convection and strength that i’m sure it must come off like it’s a huge issue everytime.

I also find myself saying words like “always’ and “never” which I dont’ really mean in that way and just take for granted that she would know that, when I shouldn’t do that… if I mean “I feel liek a lot of the time…” I should just say that right? instead of saying always?

Idk lol… I’m goign on and on… Basically i want to find a way to be able to be hoenst wtih my little lady about the way I feel without hurting her feelings so bad all the time… I love her with all my heart and she is my world… I see so much strength in her, like she can take on the world, but I have to remember that through all her strength, she’s still my delicate little flower, and I have to treat her with the same sensitivity and compasion she deserves.

I love my litte Flower, adn she is Perfect, adn I want to make sure she ALWAYS feels that way :)