brings out my unkind side. He just irritates me. He is rude, inconsiderate, and when he doesn’t know something, he just lies.

When my husband is around, he treats me fairly well, because he cares about my husband. When my husband is away, my neighbour is just plain ignorant towards me. If I try to visit with his wife, he needs to butt in an either starts criticising her, or does anything to get her attention away from me. Usually he is just rude to me until I leave.

He yells at his wife, he yells and sometimes beats his dogs, and has run several of his wife’s friends and relatives off when they came to visit.

I try to be kind, and feel that there must just be something wrong with him, but my deepest desire is just for him to leave me alone. I end up just hating him sometimes, and then he turns around and is all charming to me the next time I see him because me husband is there, or someone else that he is trying to influence.

Then, maybe I shouldn’t be kind in this case.