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Overcome my OCD
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This is a combination of three entries in another goal I’m now moving into this one as it seems to fit better here. So this first entry is a bit long.

Basically I must lose the obsessional behaviour, the anxious need for reassurance, the fear of loss, the need to clarify, all of it. It leads to more worries and anxieties and I feel dreadful. No more. This is the moment it changes. And I am tracking this for at least a month.

First few days though – not great. Last week got stressed over something silly (felt like I’d seemed too critical & then was hurt & probably over sensitive when trying to sort it out) which then escalated & got similarly stressed at something else (similar- felt like I’d been too critical) & then later upset (more from trying to explain why I am so sensitive to any hint of rejection & not being liked). All not good. Each conversation is hard because my OCD needs it to go perfectly & if something isn’t said in the perfect way I have to almost restart the conversation. Exhausting. The only positive to come out of it I think is that I can see a pattern to these feelings & behaviour & can see where I’ve felt the same (but less extreme) in the past. The key issue seems to be I judge & am very critical of myself – it’s such a cliche but I really do need to learn to love myself. Until I do I can’t believe really that anyone could know the real me & still like me – apart from Peter & I sometimes even fear that won’t last. He is such a good person I feel more secure there than anywhere but even that can sometimes feel at risk to me. My OCD and other issues sometimes make me act so strange sometimes – so fixated on certain points. I don’t know how to love myself though. I am so tearful & emotional all the time.

Over the weekend I had swirling thoughts, resolutions, strategies & fears. All annoying, frustrating, depressing etc. But I did start calming my mind eventually & did start giving myself “silent space” when I found myself over thinking things and anxiously planning for the week ahead. Started to think that if time is circular & we have been here before then maybe we need to give room to our higher self to control things rather than trying to control with our mind. Started today with this in mind. Had some wobbles I have to say. My OCD makes me restate things time & again & seek out the perfect reply in response to everything I say. It’s exhausting. I have to go to the doctors about this I think. But…there was slightly more calm in general. Very slight. Really needs improving. There were too many moments when I lost the calm and needed the clarification etc but … I’m holding onto the slightly improved calm – I have to. I will build on it tomorrow.



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I now suffer.. Always had GAD learned to live with it. New to OCD and frustrated

Over the last month I have suffered and my life feels ruined. I can not get off conversations. I always aware that im talking. Or if someone else is talking i zone out looking at their mouth move. Like my brain is stuck on how we communicate that its not natural any more. Driving me nuts. Ive actually thought about ending my MBA program one class away from being done and turning down this job interview on Tuesday with a great company. I can barly function at my current job.

JWillow Here 'til the lights go out....please stay in touch!

Calming the mind

...and keeping thoughts can still be overwhelming, even under normal circumstances. Sounds like it would be a good idea to see your GP & get a referral to someone who specialises in Obsessional Thought Behaviour & Anxiety. It’s no wonder you’re feeling exhausted as your energies are spent on analysing and thinking of the ‘perfect’ scenario for every situation, which in reality, usually doesn’t exist. I know myself, I can get hooked on ‘thoughts’ that can destruct situations. I hope you’re able to move forward on this and feel alot less turmoil within soon.
((((((Hugs)))))))

Thank you so much for that. Things are a little better. Not perfect- but I have found ways to calm myself down. And there was a particular issue that was being a trigger and things are better in that regard so that helps. Did go to the GP and was prescribed something which has helped too. Was also advised to use CBT. Definirely less exhausted by the thoughts right now & for that I’m very gratefu. Many thanks again for taking the time to comment.


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