am havin the same prblm dude.
don kno how 2 forget her..
can some1 plz help ?

What you are going threw is grief, just as sure as if you had lost a loved one to death. However perhaps this is worse in a way, because that other person is still alive, but choses to not be with you for what ever reason. I would think that finding a new girlfriend would be counterproductive, until you have finished the grief process (it always has been for me.) I would not begin to tell you what you should do, but I was not happy until I found something to build my life upon other than another person.
“How is grief a gift of the spirit? Because it is the underside of love, goodness and meaning. We grieve because we have loved and been loved. It is as simple as that. Perhaps there is no clearer proof of love’s greatness than the pain we feel when the object of our love is taken from us. Grief also underscores the essential goodness and meaningfulness of life. If people were not good and things did not matter, we would never grieve. But people are good, things do count, and life does have meaning. That is grief’s protest.
That is also grief’s promise”

I don’t even know where to begin. I always do this, I put myself as an example. But I know what it is that you are going through. It’s horrible, I wish I never did fall in love. I wish I could erase these feelings completely. And believe me I tried every possible thing to forget and alway at the end of it all my thoughts of that lost love just amplify even more. It’s like a ferris wheel where no matter the difference in hight or position I’m at in a ferris wheel I’m still in the freaken wheel of agonizing memories. I started with the supposably quick fix so I thought partying would help, alcohol, drugs (numbing) even intimate relationships(that never last, only as a distraction for the time being). Nothing of that helped. So I turned to a healthier solution eating feel good foods like salmon, taking vitamins, eating tons of vegies and fruits, exercising at the gym, joining a club which I ultimatly became the president of in my school. I was interacting with more people, I’ve maintained a 3.5 GPA. But nothing helped me absolutly nothing. I still wake up in the morning and I remember him. So I bought a new car I went a ton of shopping sprees. Nothing. Now I’m just thinking about moving away from here justing moving to the opposite side of the nation. I can’t escape this torment I live on a daily basis.
That’s why I feel so bad for your situation because I honestly think that there is no way out at least for me.

i feel the same bout my x-boifriend so all i can say is that u need 2 realize that u have friends and family that love u(including me).i know that it get harder each day but if u can get thrugh tonight i know 2morrow will b a brighter day. i think u just need to start dating again maybe ya can start with me.

brother, i know what your going through. I’ve been there. Although it has been two years, if this doesnt help you this may help someone else.

First thing, I want you to actually think about what your saying. Do you really want to forget about her. Because if you dont this is not going to help you. You need to know that this relationship is over and you need to choose it to be over. I say this because for the past 2 years I was in love with this girl but she wasn’t healthy for me. IT IS HARD!!!!! men aren’t suppose to cry but ill be damned the times I cried for her. So once you made the choice that it is over comes the next part.
and in my opinion its probably the hardest part….Stop talking to him/her. Try to stop completely and if not, make minimal contact with them. Get rid of all the crap that reminds you of her. Do something creative with it…I like fire so I burned it. Once all that is done, next part is the most important…..when you feel depressed, sad, hopeless…...smile! look in the mirror and smile. It will make you feel better I promise!!!
Also i completely agree with Cal’s four things…
just remember brother…..S**t happens and it happens for a reason….although it is hard to understand what sometimes…..but good things do come from it… I myself am not a religious person, but I do know when to ask for help when I need it. Try it sometimes…
Last thing, if things get to hard and the smiling thing doesnt work…..get professional help. Call someone! a friend, your parents, a sibling…never do this alone, cuz you dont have to…. last thing you want to do is think selfishly and do something stupid that WILL affect everyone around you…remember brother…your never alone…someone out there does love you

i saw you made this comment three years ago.Thats a long time.I am in this situation right now.How you doing now?
Hope you got out of it
Take care buddy