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Midnight_Beauty Wants to go to college

stop masturbating (read all 3 entries…)
Gave up...

It’s not worth it. I don’t have sex at all, and I never have. I’m waiting until I’m married. What’s so bad about me finding pleasure in myself anyway?


TrueFreedom “The deeper sorrow carves into you, the more joy you can contain"

Hello Midnight :) Well, that answer differs depending on what one believes. I can only speak for Christians and so I hope to do their view on this justice for you…
A person who is a well informed Christian believes that the body is not meant to dominate the soul though it vehemently attempts to ever since the Fall of Man. This inversion of the faculties of Man is never clearer than right after puberty. If a child has not been raised in the spiritual disciplines it takes to temper his awakening sexuality, it will dominate him and make him act less like a man governed by reason and more like an animal who is governed by desire. Deep down the man senses the disorder which he will either try to ignore or will boldly work to change.
Therefore it is the God given duty of the Christian to reassert the proper order of soul governing the body. They are to be an example to others of the freedom of God’s children to no longer be dominated by the flesh like an animal but to be governed by reason and be truly Human. God gives us the grace to do it if we cooperate with that grace and persevere.

And so if you are not married, there is no good reason to be receiving sexual stimulation other than the body wants it and is demanding the reasoning soul to comply. This is an act that is beneath the dignity God intends for Man and for Man’s sexual faculties.

God has intended sex to be a bonding of husband to wife in a way that is so special that it can even possibly bring new life into this world and a new soul forever in the world to come. With this in mind, it is easy to see why God would not want His people to then take the God given gift of their life giving sexuality, and misuse it in such a way that it is focused on bringing pleasure to yourself instead of your wife or husband. And instead of life giving, it is absolutely sterile and empty of spiritual meaning. Also, if you are a man, the seeds of life are spilled and destroyed.

I Hope this was helpful to you. This is not easy but it is not impossible. Most of all God wants to see you putting in the effort to change. I thought I would never be able to beat this but decided I would rather die trying than give up. Then one day God gave me an increase of His grace which is hard to describe but it was immediate and I knew on day one, that something had changed within me and was more well ordered than ever before. I felt like my soul was more dominant over my body and I had an inner knowing that this battle was finally won if I cooperated with God’s immense grace.

That was in January of 2010 and I only had one setback since then in February of this year. And since being forgiven on February 10 2011, I have been stronger in God than ever before. I am now on day 188 when I used to not be able to go for more than a few days-sometimes less. I always say that if I can be freed of this anyone can.

That is why I come here to this site- to encourage and help others to find freedom from sexual sin and to have others support and remind me to never turn back to my previous life ever again. I hope we will have the privilege of getting to know you Midnight, and to encourage you in this battle against “the world, the flesh, and the Devil.” God bless…

TrueFreedom “The deeper sorrow carves into you, the more joy you can contain"

Hey I just realized when I looked at your name again that you might be a girl and wanted you to know that so am I. There is also another girl on this site named Notjustahabit. It would be really cool to have you here and get to know each other better :)

You might have an addiction. And if so its winning. Don’t let it win. You can keep trying to convinse yourself but you never will it will always make you feel guity. Satan is trying to make you think you deserve to feel good and you need pleasure. and after all you are waiting until marriage you you can’t be sinning. Truth is you are. Lust is sin. Masturbation is lust and selfishness.

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