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Follow Thoreau's advice; "Go forth boldly in the direction of your dreams; live the life you've imagined." (read all 13 entries…)
So, what is stopping me from moving forward in writing?

This topic is going to have to be done in drips and drabs. But, inspired by some reading I did online the last few days, I am ready to start to tackle it.

The dilemma: Which path to take?
Some experts say that you just have to force yourself to sit your ass down in the chair and write. So far, I have been unable to do so. Other experts, like the one I was reading about online recently, say that that kind of tough love approach will not work in the long run, because until we engage with the aspects of us that hold us back, we will never be able to succeed.

Frankly, I don’t know which path to follow.
The mean authority figure in me says, “Enough of this psychological bullshit. You don’t write because you are too lazy, that’s all. If you would just get some willpower and follow-through and self-discipline, then you would write.
It’s almost second nature for me to believe this voice, and blame myself for my inactivity in following my dreams.

But, but, but…. why can I be self-disciplined for some things, then? Why can I force myself to exercise when I don’t feel like it, and not force myself to write? I think that there may indeed be something holding me back, and until I confront that barrier, I will never make progress toward what I want to do.

However the meanie voice in me says, “Oh, please, you know that’s just a way for you to not challenge your laziness and not have to sit your ass down in the chair and write.”
So I don’t know who to believe and how to proceed. Confront my reluctance or just forge ahead past it?

Well, since I’m not writing anyway, I guess I can take some time to play with the idea of confronting the fears/barriers that make me not write. I have to put the little ones to bed now, so I’ll start taking on the demons in the next post.


Advice from an old writer

Instead of examining why you aren’t writing (in writing), why not write? I’m not being glib. I’ve been a writer a long time and because I’ve always been paid to write I’ve never had the luxury of not writing. Write stuff for all those hungry content websites – they’ll give you pin money and more importantly, deadlines. Once you learn how to just sit down and write you will be able to write what you want. But first you have to learn how to write on cue. Good luck!


That would be a great way to approach it. Thanks for your input!

loveinthecure FOCUS - I AM FOCUS. I LOVE FOCUS.

I think community is also a great way

to solve the issue of not writing.

There are often times local writing groups you can join

or online writing communities – or groups to hang with online – like Julie Jordan Scott has one that she runs:

Good luck – sitting on the fence about something big in life is something I’m completely dealing with right now as well. I hope we both can get that push to figure it all out..

Those demons are our own creation – we have the power to get rid of them.

I had a dream with you in it last night.

It was a wonderful dream!

loveinthecure FOCUS - I AM FOCUS. I LOVE FOCUS.


I want to come see you in NY someday! Really -!

You have a

permanent invitation.
Come any time! It would make me so happy.

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