I don’t agree with marriage. I like the idea of long-term commitment, but that would be a partnership. Marriage is rarely an even thing. In marriage, you cannot find much personal space in which your partner does not invade your life. Marriage has too many expectations. And if you don’t meet them, it’s considered a failure.

And then there’s the expectation of children!

A child is supposed to be your legacy. It’s a big responsibility, and it’s a life-time project. I don’t believe I’m cut out for it. But seeing everyone else around me look so pleased at the prospect!

Seeing how happy they are makes me the tiniest bit jealous, even though I don’t want to be a mother.

And as I said, it makes be a bit jealous and just a tad regretful, because, despite the difficulty that having a child brings, I know there’s often a lot of joy that comes with having one. I just don’t feel like devoting my life to raising a child- and their presence changes a relationship drastically.

I personally feel that, unless someone was to persuade me otherwise, I would be happy simply being the godmother of my friends’ children.