Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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Dawn Treader Reclarify my goals while exploring a new relationship

love and be loved in return (read all 19 entries…)
OMG... I have gone and (nearly) done it...

Almost entirely subliminally, in a process of less than 20 minutes out-of-the-blue decision making (From the moment when I was stood in the middle of Wales with a mug of tea thinking about her, only to realise she had texted me 30 mins before, and we spoke fir the 1st time since August), I have arranged for a coffee tomorrow with Julie, Jools, Jules, the erstwhile love of my life, who I last saw 4 years ago, last dated 12 1/2 years ago but still ADORE (as I have often as-good-as admitted on here)as quite probably the only woman I could imagine sharing my life with. the only woman that I could imagine, right now, ever being able to trust with my life. There may be others, but I havn’t found them!

I’m therefore planning to ask her whether (even though she’s currently married to my successor in the serial monogamy of her life), she would ever consider backtracking (forward tracking to a second time-around for us).
I’m planning to tell her that right now I cannot conceive of anyone else that I would trust with the rest of my life, and there is no-one else that I would dig deep for and raise their kids. There are many things i would have to change, but I will for her, if she wants it.


Dawn Treader Reclarify my goals while exploring a new relationship

Strangely, for the day of such a humongous question...

I feel very calm.

Dawn Treader Reclarify my goals while exploring a new relationship

Extraordinarily excited, in a purposeful, controlled way, but...

Calm. :-)

Dawn Treader Reclarify my goals while exploring a new relationship

Well... Brief but useful...

A long way to go, 70 mins drive & back for a 15-20 min walk and chat, but it’s always good to be reminded of the reality of Julie’s life, rather than any flights of fancy of mine that I could just parachute back in with no big rumpus!
We said we’d get together over dinner to talk about things ‘properly’, but although Jules is lovely & kind, I have to say that I just felt pretty foolish.

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