It will happen – and you’ll be suprised when it does, because you won’t be expecting it.

In high school I was the good girl with the good grades, the activities, and no real relationships. But, despite what you see on TV, losing your virginity isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Most guys in high school don;t exactly have “skills”- no matter what they claim. The longer you wait, the more likely you’ll be grown up enough to be sure you get yours too… and the more likely the other person will have some idea how to guarantee that. Not being a prude, just speaking from a few years of “experience”.

I was a “classic nerd” in my teens and early 20s, and didn’t really start dating until I was 25! Not by choice, just because I wasn’t clued in. What bothered me, also, wasn’t the lack of sex, it was the lack of opportunity.

Here’s my opinion. Sex is a wonderful part of life, and the sooner you start, the more experiences you’ll have and the sooner you’ll get “skills”. Think of your first time not as something to delay in order to make it perfect, but just as your first time. You can’t really know what you like or what you want or even what it’s about until you’ve had some experience—including less-than-satisfactory experiences. I wish I had started sooner, because those are some truly delicious years and practically everyone your age is in the same state.

Also, check out this book’s page on Amazon: The Year of Yes. It’s about a 20-yo woman who decided to say yes every time someone asked her out on a date. She went on 150 dates in one year and ended up marrying a man utterly unlike what she would have imagined if she tried to think in advance how it all “should” be.

To find your way into opportunity, it helps brainy types like us to get some coaching from a friend with some experience. I relied heavily on some female friends who knew what they were doing and had patience with my socially clueless self. This stuff can’t be explained in one long lecture; you try something, you talk about it with a friend, you get an idea for something else to try, you try it, you talk with your friends about it, etc. You have to meet people, try bold things that feel a little out of character, accept rejection, allow yourself to learn and grow from each experience. If you aren’t getting rejected, you aren’t getting out enough.

If you don’t know by now that you’re beautiful, then please believe me, if that is your photo, you are beautiful.

And you sound or read intelligent. So please rest assured you will have no problems attracting a man, or whomever. You got it, girl, like a sweet lily in the jungle, you can attract. No doubt about it.

Once you give up your virginity, there’s no getting it back. So choose carefully. Exciting isn’t it? A little scary? This is life. There’s the tension, the knowing you have a choice, you can look over the prospects. Don’t settle for second best.

My suspicions are that you are very intelligent, healthy, spiritually in tune, a wonderful person. So you don’t have to worry none. Do what you need to do to get your career going, get ready for the life you want to live. You will find that man. Be confident. Be strong. Be alert, stay that way, and stay alive. Thrive.

May God bless you, sister.

You will really enjoy it when you finally have sex but make sure you find a nice guy, and hopefully someone who knows what he is doing and really make the most of the experience..good luck:) And dont worry…u are not ugly…it is not you that has the problem..it is the guys around you that must need help or glasses…or both:)