My older brother had to fight in the courts to gain custody of his son from the mother. She was a “Fetal Alcohol” child herself, that turned into an alcoholic and drug-addicted person with harmful behaviours that was seriously messing up her kids. She had three children, all from separate fathers.

I never thought that being a parent would be the one thing that would help my brother turn around his life; but having a small child rely on him for everything seemed to change him for the better. He still has lots of characteristics that bother me, which is why I have a hard time being around him, but I can now handle him in small doses. I am proud, however, of how he has turned out as a father.

So, it was rather strange to be contacted by one of the older brothers (let’s call him “J”); especially since this is one of the older kids who had mentally and physically abused my nephew, with the help of a really deranged neighbourhood kid.

This person “J” sent me a friendship request on Facebook last summer. I’ve been ignoring him, but he contacted me again by FB mail the other day, wanting to be in contact with his little brother. I certainly don’t feel comfortable by the situation and don’t want to enable it either. I’m sure that it will bring up nothing but bad memories for my young nephew, something that took years for him to get over.

So I decided to forward the email communications from “J”, to my own brother to let him know of the situation. I’ve asked him if he would like me to respond in any manner, or if I can go ahead and simply block this guy from contacting me on Facebook.

We’ll see how it turns out, but I simply hope to be able to block him—any kid that would abuse his little brother in that way, when he was only a toddler, does NOT deserve any sort of second or third chance. He’s had his chances before and hasn’t changed.