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Dear Z,

I wish to hell I knew what you were thinking. You’re giving me mixed signals. After our last date, it seemed pretty clear to me that you didn’t want anything more than a friendship. However, your follow up text messages have made me wonder if I read you wrong that night.

I’m not a mind reader. Just tell me what you want.

Brian



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JadedForever just is...

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Is Z the woman from yoga class?
-JF

Brian is at peace.

Yes

I may not be Don Juan, but most women I’ve become intimate with, I could tell that they were attracted to me. They had a certain look in their eyes. They asked questions about me. They took an interest in my life. Etc.

Z and I went out to lunch a few weeks ago after yoga, and then we had a “real date” (dinner and the theatre) last Thursday.

There have been a few times now when I thought I’d seen “the look,” but when we talk, she seldom asks about me, or my life.

During the play, she rested her head on my shoulder, and I put my arm around her. So I thought, “okay, just stop over-thinking things, and go with the flow.” But then when the play was over, she practically bolted out of there. I think she left skid marks as she drove away. LOL

Before she climbed in her car, we hugged, and I went in for a kiss, but she did the turn the cheek thing, so it ended up being a kiss on the cheek. Ugh….very embarrassing! Made me feel like an inept teenager on his first date.

So, I figured that was it. I was a little depressed that night and the next day, but tried to push it all out of my mind, and buried myself in work. I told myself, “No worries…there are plenty of other women out there…I’ve just crossed one more off the list.”

Then I got a text from her telling me she had a really good time and thanking me for taking her.

Since then we’ve spoken on the phone once, and texted a few times. She’s never mentioned my failed attempt at a kiss, or her apparent rush to get home that night.

LOL…you asked one question, and I gave you WAY too much information. Sorry.

Anyway…she just confuses me.

Sounds to me like she's scared.

I’ll confess that sometimes I’ve behaved a little like how you describe. In my case it was always because I was afraid of taking things too fast, not because I didn’t find the man attractive.

Maybe Z just isn’t sure what she wants or needs, or isn’t sure whether you’re a man who wants to give good things to her, or just use her. Maybe she has been burned in the past, and is gun-shy.

Anyway, I wish you luck! I hope you can clear up any communication issues and get to the reality of the situation. It sounds like you are a very sincere fellow, who deserves a good and loving relationship in his life.

molliemoonlight I ♥ this place :)

I was going to say

very much the same thing.

Good luck Brian! I think ‘go with the flow’ is the best thing you can do, and see what happens.

JadedForever just is...

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Don’t worry that you over-shared I was curious!

No need to rush things!
I think my first thought was maybe she just doesn’t know what she wants yet because it’s too soon to know.
But I wouldn’t give up hope on the possibility just yet!
-JF

dharma_child Excited to hear the kids give VOICE to Last Night I Dreamd of Chickens

Chilax and enjoy...

Don’t project any assumptions or try to think what she’s thinking. Just enjoy the time with her.

Putting her head on your shoulder, welcoming your embrace…those are all things that someone does when they feel comfortable in your presence.

Having been ‘the turn the cheek’ gal before, it had nothing to do with whether or not I was into the guy. I was just really enjoying all the stuff before a relationship can start becoming more intimate. And, all the stuff that comes with it. Your just not sure yet, and you want to enjoy the stolen glances, the head on the shoulder, the flirtatious smiles…

Just go with it. And, if things move forward. I’m sure the first date story will be something you can share and laugh about with each.

RM I have NO idea what this says...

I hear ya

Although I’m not as far as you into “a something” with someone I’m interested in, the whole mixed signal things is SO confusing? They say or do or text something and it seems like they’re from all different people instead of the one! Oy. How did dating get so difficult?

P.S. I think it’s cute when you say you can see that look in their eyes when they like you. I kind of wonder what mine looks like to a guy :)

P.P.S. Why can’t we just pass a note and say, Do you like me? Circle YES or NO

Brian is at peace.

LOL

So true. Maybe I’ll try passing her that exact note, next time I see her in yoga class. LOL

RM I have NO idea what this says...

Hahaha

See if it works and let me know :)

Teahupoo Cultivating S P A C E for joy and abundance.

Maybe...

She just wanted to take things slow and not rush. If she texted you afterwards that is a good sign! Girls who are not interested do not bother texting :)


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