There are two catagories of men women sleep with, the ones that are hot and sexy, but not really long-term material (like they drink too much, or they are players, or unstable), and the ones they really like and might want a long term relationship with.
I think I may have called a man nice if I didn’t know much about him yet, but liked him. If a woman still only says you are nice after a couple of months, then she likely only sees you as a friend.
This may seem like an odd question, but how long do you give a woman to sleep with you before you decide it isn’t worth the work? Why would you have to bail on her if she doesn’t sleep with you? Could you live with being her friend?
Do you have to have some kind of sex after just a couple of dates? Do you expect it on the first date? Do you find yourself getting angry because she isn’t sleeping with you (women pick up on that one, and they feel quite uncomfortable with it).
This is kind of some insight into how women feel, it really sucks to always have that pressure coming from a date, that feeling of sex being the whole point of being out together.
In truth, most women like to feel a strong connection, to have great conversation, to have fun where you go together, and it is actually that feeling that we are with the right person that makes us want to have sex.
I usually did know fairly quickly if I was attracted to someone or not, but that didn’t mean I would sleep with them. I actually liked to do stuff together, and not just going out to a bar. I liked meeting for lunch, talking, going for a bike ride, or to an art gallery. Things that reflected my interests. If I only went out for supper with someone,or a club, I got bored. I would rather see his pottery, or his work shop, or meet his dog.
Try doing something with her that reflects your interests, or hers.
If a woman gets the feeling that all the talk and meals is just a formality to get to the sex, then it won’t likely happen. We have to genuinely feel like you just love being around us, and that we have common interests.
You could try asking her back to your place after a while, and if she doesn’t go for it, she likely sees you as a friend.