...the reason why the “bad” guys seem to get more women is that they risk rejection much more often than most of the “good” guys do. They get rejected much more often, too, but because they try so much, of course they’re going to get more “yes”es, too. Someone has said that to succeed, double your failure rate, and I think that’s great advice. :)

I know you didn’t ask that – I just mentioned that because I know I and most of my female friends love nice guys. They just quite rarely approach us and make the first move.

I’ve only ever dated nice, sweet, caring guys, and when I call someone nice, that definitely doesn’t mean I’m not interested in him. Of course it doesn’t depend on the word choice alone but on the context – I’ve rejected some guys by starting “You’re so nice/sweet/wonderful, but…”, but in that case it’s been obvious that I’m rejecting them.

This reminds me of Jon. Jon is this 19 year old kid who LOVES me. (Well okay, he’s at least infatuated) and Kat is like—no way dude! I’d never date that guy!

And my friend and coworker, Miss Tayla, was like, “But he’s nice” to which I responded,

“He’s a bad worker!”

I don’t want to fuck him, as you crassly say, because he is a child and his face is like sandpaper.

Less to do with his niceness, I’d say.

Bonus Song

There are two catagories of men women sleep with, the ones that are hot and sexy, but not really long-term material (like they drink too much, or they are players, or unstable), and the ones they really like and might want a long term relationship with.

I think I may have called a man nice if I didn’t know much about him yet, but liked him. If a woman still only says you are nice after a couple of months, then she likely only sees you as a friend.

This may seem like an odd question, but how long do you give a woman to sleep with you before you decide it isn’t worth the work? Why would you have to bail on her if she doesn’t sleep with you? Could you live with being her friend?

Do you have to have some kind of sex after just a couple of dates? Do you expect it on the first date? Do you find yourself getting angry because she isn’t sleeping with you (women pick up on that one, and they feel quite uncomfortable with it).

This is kind of some insight into how women feel, it really sucks to always have that pressure coming from a date, that feeling of sex being the whole point of being out together.

In truth, most women like to feel a strong connection, to have great conversation, to have fun where you go together, and it is actually that feeling that we are with the right person that makes us want to have sex.

I usually did know fairly quickly if I was attracted to someone or not, but that didn’t mean I would sleep with them. I actually liked to do stuff together, and not just going out to a bar. I liked meeting for lunch, talking, going for a bike ride, or to an art gallery. Things that reflected my interests. If I only went out for supper with someone,or a club, I got bored. I would rather see his pottery, or his work shop, or meet his dog.

Try doing something with her that reflects your interests, or hers.

If a woman gets the feeling that all the talk and meals is just a formality to get to the sex, then it won’t likely happen. We have to genuinely feel like you just love being around us, and that we have common interests.

You could try asking her back to your place after a while, and if she doesn’t go for it, she likely sees you as a friend.

..are the only guys that really do it for me.<3

a very, very nice guy. He’s a keeper.

Sex? He got that too. So did some not-so-nice guys, but none of them is getting a ring. ;)

I do believe my attitude towards nice guys may have changed in the past fifteen years or so of my dating life. At some point, I realized I was worth it.

When I call a man “nice”, you really have to listen to my intonation. There’s the hopeful intonation and then there’s the death knell intonation. The term “nice” in and of itself does not mean someone doesn’t have a chance with me, but I do occasionally use it as part of my polite rejection toolkit.

I would usually say that it’s a bit of a nail in the coffin to call a guy nice. But I had a change of heart this past week.

I went out with a guy for the first time, had a really great time, and want to see him again. I’m a little bubbly about it, nothing crazy just…excited? It’s a good thing, regardless.

I told my friends about him, the first thing out of my mouth was: “He’s a nice guy.” I didn’t mean to say it, it just came out. But then I realized, I really meant it AND I still wanted to see him again. He is a nice guy, but this is the closest anyone has come to getting my affections in a while.

So would I fuck him? Not right now, no. Like I said, first time out with him and that’s just not my style. But it’s definitely not off the table. ^.

the last guy i dated i called him a nice guy and he seemed so, untill he turned into a complete a-hole. took me for 6 – that one. ive also dated a few other nice guys, and they just didnt work out not cos they were too nice, but because of other things.i will take nice any time of the day tho. i dont want a bad boy. i would sleep with a nice guy if i was attracted to him and liked his personality and in love etc and have done so. my days of dating bad boys are long over. i dont need the stress.

when i describe someone as nice, it doesnt mean they are boring, or not attractive, or not worth my interest. if anything i prefer the nice guys. however that doesnt mean i want some one boring and serious or blinkered. jsut someone who is confident and funny, but also a bit naughty, doesnt take life too seriously, a bit crazy, but nice. he must not be a a-hole to me and other people. when i say nice, i mean the guy is likeable by all. jsut a good guy all round. being nice doesnt mean boring or uncool. confidence and wit is everything.