I don’t think there is a set age when people should lose it. Whenever both people are truly in love (not this we’ve been going out for a week and we are so in love kid crap), responsible enough to talk beforehand about protection, and responsible enough to handle anything that can arise from it (pregnancy).

I think in all honesty, the “right time” is less about the numerical age and more about how comfortable you are. I know people who have lost it at a much younger age who aren’t eternally-scarred by their choice, and that’s because they knew what they wanted. I think the “right time” is entirely subjective to the persons involved.

I’m glad I lost it when I did, but that’s not to say that I wouldn’t have been glad if I had lost it earlier. I had a couple of opportunities prior that didn’t end up coming to fruition (to put it delicately) for whatever reason, but I don’t think I would have regretted it if they had.

I lost it with a boy that I am in love with and would probably like to spend the rest of my life with, but if I had lost it earlier, I don’t think I would’ve regretted it.

at what age did you lose your virginity? 15

or what do you think is the right age? (is there?) It’s an extremely personal individual matter. The right age for me may not be the right age for you, and vice versa. Obviously the involved parties need to be old enough to consent and mature enough to handle their shit responsibly, but there is no magic age.

Nor, for that matter, is there any other magic set of circumstances. Being married is important to some people and not a concern to others. Being in love is important to some people and completely irrelevant to others. Hell, knowing the partners’ name may or may not be a big deal to you. It’s all about what you want to make your experience be.

do you wish it was sooner/later? or was it just about right? Dude, I timed it with the ball drop on the new millennium. It was EXACTLY right.

At 15. But that’s what can happen when you are literally abandoned by your parents in a remote cabin in a strange new place while they regularly travel for weeks at a time, leaving you all alone to fend for yourself and get yourself to and from your strange new school every day, and you are scared and lonely even though you pretend not to be, and you want someone around to make you feel like you actually are worth some attention and interaction and like they actually want to be around you. I’m lucky it was with someone who turned out to be a good person who is still a close friend to this day. I think there are a lot of girls out there who were in my situation that aren’t so fortunate.

It was with someone I cared about, and it was great.

I had lots of kissing and petting before that, so the actual sex wasn’t so much more.

I don’t think there’s a perfect time, but I would have to say at least 15, just for the sake of maturity. I agree that a person should be old enough to fully be able to consent, to be responsible about birth control, and to have a caring partner.

While I wouldn’t put an upper limit on it, I would say that past a certain age, virginity becomes kind of a barrier. It is likely much harder to just date, because then as soon as the other person knows you are a virgin, it becomes too large an issue. Especially if you are hoping to lose it with someone meaningful. You might have people only wanting to sleep with you to take your virginity.

It can become the sort of thing where it becomes so important, that no one is good enough to lose it with. Then, it’s hard for the sex not to be a let down.

First time for what? Sex? Or Intercourse? Or is there a distinction for purposes of this question?

To me, the sexual continuum begins with a thought, and from there an awareness, a look, a smile, a heart skipping a beat, a touch, a kiss…and it continues way beyond orgasm…a sigh, a squeeze, bacon and eggs…

_{Love can worm its way in there somewhere too, but it doesn’t always, nor is it necessary always}

which I think was definitely too late.
The kind of high school I attended was named in Latin “humaniora” – meaning “(to become) more human” – man did I lose time there growing up to be more human!

It was the right time for me, definitely.

I think it’s individual but I’m sure that to lose one’s virginity the person should be at least 17 or 18.
I find it horribly wrong that in The Czech Republic the age limit for sex is 15. I know that pushing the limit up wouldn’t really change anything (I know some people that lost their virginity even before they turned 15 and it’s not like the law was an issue)... but for the love of god, 15-year-olds are kids!

i remember where i put it,i know exactly where it is. i would go get it back if i could =/

Depending upon definitions. And before you say it’s subjective, I’m not clear on the subject myself. 19 was bad decisions made in haste, 27 was good decisions made thoughtfully. So for me later was better. At 19 I was interested in catching up on some wildness. At 27 I was interested in expressing love.