‘And there’s a second reason you are convinced that you’re more yourself when you’re alone: because it’s more familiar. You are in a habitual, repetitious rut. “This is me, because I’m in the same pattern”; it’s recognizable.

When you’re with another person you’re out of yourself because the other person is flowing into you and you are flowing into them, there are surprises, you’re a little out of control, and then you think you are not your real true self. The out of control- that’s the community acting through you. It’s the locus that you’re in, acting through you.’

James Hillman