so I met with my sister and my mother today… we tried to organize what she wants and what she doesn’t want in the party.
We also discussed long on the guests list. She has a short list of around 80 people and then an ideal list of 120 people. I told her to ask the catering people if the price per person goes down as the number of guests goes up. We’ll know that tomorrow, so maybe it’s worth to have more people if we can pay a bit less per person. My mother worries too much about… I don’t know how to call it… she cares more about what should be done instead of what she actually wants. So she invites people who she considers need to be invited instead of who she really wants to invite to the party. She even had the nerve to tell both my sister and I that since none of us ever got married, now she “owes invitations” to a lot of cousins, etc. who had invited her to their children’s weddings… unbelievable, huh? well, that is the kind of mother I have… (Not the supportive type, really).
We also gave her money for the advance payment for the venue and the catering. We both said how much we would cooperate with, money wise and she was ok with it. She actually told me it was too much. But I have the money and I think it is worth making her happy with her party.
I came up with the idea of having some kind of “Guests Book” at the reception so people can write messages and wishes for her. :)
Only now I realize I will have to write something myself and I am not sure what I am going to put there. I have a very complicated relationship with her, you know…
We are thinking with my sister of a few other things like this to surprise her.