not thinking before I speak = letting emotions take over and not just thinking things through. Ive been having a tough time at work and been pretty vocal with boss and others. This is not me – and while it hasnt yeilded a bad result – I dont feel right about it. Some has to do with the recent change in our team dynamic and how others feel free to talk about people behind thier backs…I guess my back get up a bit…or sometimes guard down. I never want to sink to that level to fit in. So…back to the basics I learned in Church (thank you Reverend Barbara xox) the golden arches rule. 1) it it nice? and 2) Is it necessary. WHen you stop to take the time to think these 2 things over – you will have your answer, FOr me I found that I mainly didnt have trouble with saying things that werent nice….it was the unneccessary crap I felt I said did more damage. Respecting myself by enforcing the above until Im back into my goodie goodie habits. No ones gonna make me stoop to that level, I am higher than all that!!!