bermudamohawk I can do this.

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dinner plans

I recently found out that a former coworker is living in my new town. We decided to meet up for dinner this week. As we were making plans (via FB messaging) I realized that I have the tendency to make other people do the choosing. I’m so concerned about pleasing others that I choose to not care. I throw out options (diverse ones) and rely on the other person to decide. That can be tedious and draw out the decision making process. Lame. Here’s out the process went this time:

Me: You’re in town?
D: Yes, I’m here for another week. We should meet up for dinner!
Me: Yes! I’m free Monday or Wednesday evening – do either of those work for you (yes, I gave options because, realistically, his last week in town will be a busy one).
D: Monday works for me. Any suggestions where?
Me: (Thinking about offering two or three options and letting him choose, then changing my mind…) How about GP? At 7:45?
D: Works for me.

See how much easier that was? I set a place AND time, and he agreed. I need to try this more often.

Jul 09, 2012, 02:23PM PDT | 4 cheers


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buffalosnowangel

good for you!

I’m annoyingly indecisive too. So is Z for that matter. I think we both do it out of the hopes of pleasing the other person, but it just ends up annoying the bejesus out of both of us.
Have you ever seen ‘The Jungle Book’? We’re the vultures. “What you wanna do?” “I dunno, what you wanna do?” “I dunno, what you wanna do?” “Now don’t start that again!!”

I should probably adopt this goal, for the sake of everyone’s sanity lol

Jul 09, 2012, 03:32PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

bermudamohawk I can do this.

thanks

I have seen the Jungle Book, but it was ages ago and I don’t remember the vultures. That scene reminds me of a song from the Babysitters Club movie that I was obsessed with when I was about 10. There’s a song on the soundtrack called Girl Girlfriend (yes, it’s that creative) and there’s very similar dialogue “What do you wanna do?” “I don’t know, what do you wanna do?” ... “You guys are useless, I’m going home.”

Jul 10, 2012, 05:41AM PDT | Respond to this

Aemorniel

Yay! Progress!

Congratulations! :) Feels good when you actually do the things you set out/want to do.

And I’m kind of the same as you on this, I give options and let other people decide, maybe I’ll try this goal when I’ve ticked off a few of the ones I’m focusing on now. I keep a list of “goals that inspire me but which I don’t want to add yet”. This one is going on there. Thanks for the inspiration!

Jul 13, 2012, 07:21AM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers


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