koalakat Has no Internet access at the moment so may be away for a wee bit :(
Well, I’ve figured out how I’m most comfortable complimenting a stranger…and that is by not over-fixating on it. I don’t compliment strangers on a regular basis, but it does happen naturally, when I’m not striving for it in a “must cross it off my list” kind of way! =P I must say I’m happy enough with this, and feel that I can now cross it off my list!
It often starts out with an urge to simply talk to a stranger, for example, when I want to ask them about something (like the book they’re reading, something they’re wearing, etc.) and then that naturally leads to a compliment. When I first embarked on this goal of complimenting a stranger, I spent many a commute trying to work up the courage to say something, fighting with myself about whether saying something would be weird/creepy, when might be the best moment to do it, and then not saying anything at all. (Honestly, there are much better things to be thinking about!)
In the end, not actively thinking about it at all, and instead, just going about my daily life keeping my eyes open for what catches my interest and curiosity was the secret. This method may not lead to lots and lots of compliments to strangers, but it works for me and feels a lot less contrived and forced. =) Yay!