Everyone can think of one person they know that whenever you see them they complain about everything. DO NOT BE THAT PERSON! For one thing, no one cares about trivial complaints in your life. It is much much much more alluring to be a positive and happy person than bitter or whiny. I get that sometimes complaining can seem appropriate, even a a way to relieve stress or to bond with another people over your mutual dislike of something. But still I have realized the less I do it the better. When someone asks me how my day was or how I am doing, I want to focus on the GOOD things that happened that day. If something bad or annoying happened that day, why give it any more attention? I think it is important to be responsible for the energy you put out into the world… do I want to be putting out whiny negative energy, or positive grateful energy? When people think of me do I want them to admire that I am always cheerful or think of how negative I seem. I want to be grateful for the things that happen during the day, not a Debby Downer. Do I want to be seen as a person who has a sarcastic comment/complaint about everything (no matter how witty), or do I want to be seen as someone who is always positive and open to what life has to offer. Of course there are exceptions to every rule.. This doesn’t mean that you cannot ask for help from someone if you are going through a hard time, or if something bad/sad happened you cannot tell anyone about it—to me that is not complaining. But to bring up something negatively just for the sake of bringing it up, and without any intention to change it… I think is just putting out negative energy. For this goal, I want to consciously refuse to complain to other people and also delete any inner complaints as well.
Focus on the good!