I guess I haven’t been writing too much about GV and I. It’s been a blur as we’ve had some up times and some down times. The past week plus, we’ve been digging deep into things, learning more about each other and how we got to where we are and who we’ve become.

Since I really threw all my trash and yuck stuff early on, I really wanted to know more the scoop on GV. I was met with some resistance as he wanted to hold his cards close to his vest.

This past week was a peeling of those cards and for him to learn to trust me, to relinquish control of how I would respond. Some of the discussions I would’ve rather not had, but we did because it was important and gave me a much greater understanding of him and how he is with me.

I understood, though, he didn’t until I pointed it out to him, why things never went deep nor could he make the commitment to the other women because the emotional part never got developed with him, only the physical.

And, with me, there is no physical stuff being that we’re 3000 miles apart, so he has to develop the emotional part and that we’ve been doing a lot. That’s for another post, but the question I’ve been asking for awhile is why is he able to give up his life in Colombia for me and not make much lesser decisions with prior women?

It was because the other relationships, including his marriage, the women gave into the physical stuff way too soon. It’s very interesting, as I look back at my relationships and they didn’t last due also to the physical stuff.

About 1.5 yrs ago, I was getting some online coaching with “men” and how they work and this was not through a Christian thing, rather secular and he talked about this very topic. I’ll write him an email sometime and tell him he’s right on the money.