So are you saying that you are afraid he wont like whats inside of you?

I can totally relate to this… I always feel I need to open up more but dont want to come across self centred so dont share anything. The downfall with this is that it prevents you getting close to anybody.

If you start small, share things youre comfortable with… even if theyre just small irrelevant things. If the guy really likes you, even the small things will mean a lot.

And statistically it’s been shown that people have the best relationships with the person with whom they feel closest. This is why when one half of a married couple is having a secret affair, they will often feel like they are closer to their affair partner than their spouse – because the affair partner knows their secret, and the spouse doesn’t.

I used to be in the same boat. I figured no one actually wanted to hear what I thought or felt, and that I shouldn’t burden other people with my crap. But to keep it all to yourself in incredibly isolating. And what it actually boils down to is that you don’t trust your boyfriend to be man enough to deal with ALL the parts of you – good, bad, annoying – and not run away like a petulant child.

I will tell you right now that a real man (the kind you’re gonna want to hold onto and never let go) not only doesn’t run away from your bullshit, but encourages you to share and shares his own bullshit as well. He will never make you feel guilty for telling him something about yourself, even if you feel that it’s something negative.

I’m not saying you should tell him every single moment that you feel the tiniest bit sad or mad or annoyed or whatever, but trust him to know what he wants to hear and what he doesn’t. Tell him about something that pissed you off at work today, or a song that you love singing along to on the radio, or something stupid in a commercial that made you laugh, or how you feel about your current political figures. And if he doesn’t want to hear it, LET HIM TELL YOU. There’s a good chance he won’t ever speak those words :)