About 2.5 yrs ago, I was dating this man. He had great face, bod, sense of humor, intelligent, amazing sex…but after dates with him, I’d come home drained, worn, weary, and often crying. I could not figure out WHY. Well, he was vain, but it was not a crime. Somehow, I ended up cutting it off. He took it too well, ha, but about 2 weeks after cutting it off, I met my current bf, who is my dearest sweetheart (though he is vain too, but like a child).

If you feel like you need to get out, go do it. There are no guidelines for “good” reasons.

has struggles, but honestly the right person just feels right.

Use this time to wean him off of you. Don’t call him, and don’t call him back a lot. Make sure he can’t get into your apartment. Don’t feel like you have to tell him how your day went. Give him back everything he has at your place.

Do not have ex-sex.

After a few weeks, tell him that the break feels right for you, and that you made the right decision. Do it some place public so he won’t freak out on you, and have some friends nearby to support you, and to help you leave without him following you.

Don’t use this time to hook up with someone else, that’s just cruel, and clouds the issue. Make it clear that you aren’t leaving him for someone else, that you are just ready to leave him because it isn’t right.

After that, if this is what it takes, move, change your phone number, etc.