Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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Born of Stardust dances the line between two worlds...

stop pulling my hair (read all 317 entries…)
Days 22, 23, and 24: Being Honest with myself

I have been pulling. I am mad at myself, but I recognize that being mad won’t help me stop. I just need to really keep track and not say “one pull is okay” like I have been doing—- because it is obviously not okay. I can do this when I put my mind to it.

I cannot use stress as an excuse to hurt myself. I need to keep a pen on me so that I can draw when I am stressed and want to do something with my hands…



Comments:

Tarrador Ahhgghh! The...grey?... banner of doom!

You are smart...

and wise to recognize that being mad at yourself won’t help you stop. It might even stress you out more. My own thought is that you might try being kind and loving to yourself, the way you would if a dear friend were hurting herself in someway. You wouldn’t scold her or even tell her she is wrong; you would ask her what is wrong. It might not be as obvious as it seems at first, but if we stop, give ourselves some space and breath, and really examine what is triggering or motivating our actions, we might glimpse an issue or aggravation we hadn’t seen before. Talk with yourself about what is wrong, but not in a flat out “I already know all the answers” kind of way. Try a gentle, understanding approach aimed at resolving the issue, not the symptom. The symptom will usually go away when the issue is addressed.

What if you put some fringe or fake hair or something on your pen and pulled it? Remember those fuzzy haired troll dolls they used to put on the ends of pencils? I think drawing would be a great release of stress, too.


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