so i relized that i needed to raise my standards and i needed to do that for me! and i did it! and in the end what i had right in front of me was what i wanted and needed in my life and through the hardest times of that i learnt so much about myself and it feels awsome, now i know it wasnt completely that i needed to raise my relationship standard but that i needed to find myself and find myself in my partner! i did, well, i am, its a prosess and it feels great! for NO ONE will i settle less in myself! and thats exactly what i know now and needed to know!