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fall in love again (read all 8 entries…)
Negative thoughts

Can you imagine how it feels to be lonely all the time, but unable to let anyone comfort you? I have too much baggage.. I have trust issues, abandonment issues and I’m so freaking insecure. No one can stand a girl like me :(

Maybe it’s better to be alone. I really don’t want to be lied to or cheated to anymore.


OtterGirl537 verve; integrated


Don’t give up on love and start with yourself. You’re an amazing woman. Start with that.

Thanks so much OtterGirl :)) You have no idea how much it meant to me <333

Thank you!


OtterGirl537 verve; integrated


I’m glad it helped. I meant it it. You are amazing.

SimplicityInTheLBC "Energy and persistence conquer all things." - Ben Franklin

Whatever your issues are,

there will be someone who loves you in spite of (or sometimes because of) them. I used to feel the same way you did, and I am living proof that you don’t have to always feel this way.

OtterGirl is right – self-love is where it’s at. You sound like you have some healing to do, and I wish you all the best in becoming your best self again.

baileys_truffle sitting in my cocoon growing my wings.

You're not alone,

I know its easy to feel that way, like others dont really take the time to be there for you… We can easily be there for others yet we have this inability to open up and therefore allow others to comfort us because INFJ’s are complex. But your complexities are what make you, you… unique.

And that just means that the person who is able to break through that shell, the person that takes the time to know you on the inside, the person you can be your absolute self around will be gaining something so special. You.

Loneliness can make a person feel deprived.

I know of a girl who is really insecure and feels left out. There’s this sense of defeat about her, like she’s constantly hoping for some guy in shining armor to appear and protect her from harm. Maybe she wants someone who makes her forget about this world and all of her problems. Perhaps. But I do know her to be the kind of girl who drags the past along with her, and that may just be the core of it all.
Much like the girl I just described, I don’t think you have much reason to feel so insecure about yourself. You may have some baggage, but it doesn’t harm your wonderful personality. I think you’re an amazing person, and I really am glad to have met you! You’ll find the one. I’m sure of it.

Aww thank you :) I don’t know why I feel so insecure. When someone gets close I’m always scared that this person will leave soon. I never had a relationship longer than six months so I don’t really know how it is to have someone always there for me.. Most people come and go. It makes me feel no one will want to stay :(

Cheer Up!

I don’t see why anyone would feel that way about you, but I do know this: Insecure girls tend to attract the wrong kind of guys. These guys like taking advantage of these poor girls’ insecurity. You can easily prevent this by working on your confidence! ;)

narcissusnymph thinks with her heart

You are INFJ

so am I :)

It’s really easy to be very … depressed, if you keep thinking so negatively about yourself.

What you ought to build in you is self-esteem and self-confidence.

Once you have enough self-esteem, you wouldn’t think about yourself the way you did last December :D

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Fight Back!

A lot many times we harbor negative emotions as a consequence of the unwillingness to truly face a blast from the past. Emotional anesthesia applied in the past to get over hurt, only results in the painkiller to wear off and hit us harder in the form of present day insecurity and baggage.

Fight back fear and deal with the hurt from the past NOW – for a more positive present today :)

After all YOLO :D


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