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baileys_truffle sitting in my cocoon growing my wings.

Fall in love (read all 42 entries…)
Unrequited

is my middle name.

This is possibly the longest time Ive gone without writing an entry about love. I guess Ive had other things occupying my mind and have tried to remain more relaxed about the whole thing.

Ive recently been back in touch with a guy Id been chatting to on a dating site over a year ago… he was really nice but when the feelings toward my friend started to develop, I felt guilty chatting to him. I know, I had no reason to… we’d never met let alone dated, but I needed to figure out where my head was at and during the time it just felt kinder not to string him along. Anyway, he is an awesome guy and one Im glad to have a second chance at getting to know. The only thing is, in all this time, he hasnt seriously attempted to meet up. Im trying to be patient but all I can do is hope Im not being catfished.

On top of that, a guy Id met through friends got in touch with me out of the blue. He is lovely but acts like we’re more familiar with each other than we actually are… having only met him a couple times, he asked me over to his house. This instantly brought my guard up and I may have offended him by admitting I wasnt comfortable with that scenario… but Im still interested in getting to know him if he’ll give me time.

Annnnd, then theres the best friend, who is still a friend. We hung out recently and it was nice. Im glad, relieved, lucky it hasnt ruined things between us.

But all these instances have me wondering why so many guys feign interest in me but don’t actually want to take things further..? I still can’t figure out where Im going wrong.



Comments:

I wonder the same thing and I have many ideas as to why so many first dates don’t go any further. It could be so many things, but to try to figure it out is usually a waste of time. I still wonder though.

Explorer Soul Experimenting with alternative sites.

Maybe if you gain more clarity...

I haven’t yet read your past entries so I apologize if my words aren’t helpful.

You seem like a kind, caring person. After reading your entry, I wondered if perhaps they aren’t giving more because you aren’t demanding it. Maybe if you gained clarity about what you are looking for, what are willing to accept, what your boundaries are, there would be more respect for you and your time.

Maybe it would filter those who can’t offer the love you deserve, and attract those who can and who will recognize your value.

It can sometimes be hard to stand firm and trust that the right person will come along and accept us just as we are but in the end, this is the kind of person worth loving.

baileys_truffle sitting in my cocoon growing my wings.

True

You’re probably right… Ive considered this many times. Im still working on getting the balance right. Sometimes I scared to make demands because I dont want to drive people away or come across high maintenance etc, but at the same time I can be too tolerant, patient and accepting of what other people put forward.

Explorer Soul Experimenting with alternative sites.

That's completely understandable

Matters of the heart are rarely easy.
It can feel like a delicate balance between being open to another person and standing firm in certain respects without fear.

Continue to be patient with yourself. I’m sure you will figure it out. :)

Tristan ♫•*¨♥♥`*•´♫ is blooming ♫•*¨♥♥`*•´♫

Sounds like

you’re doing the right thing by taking time to figure this out and by being honest about it.

baileys_truffle sitting in my cocoon growing my wings.

Thank you… my thoughts and feelings always take a while to settle. As an honest person I always feel the need to inform people of everything (who Im seeing, how I feel about them) so not to feel guilty, but this time Ive stepped away from moving prematurely and instead have allowed things to flow naturally. I think I shall post an update :)

Lorelai_Gilmore wants to keep in touch with people from the website.

I feel the same way. I feel like I’m doing something wrong but I don’t know what. It’s frustrating to me.


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