The reason you see a “life coach” is because you have a problem and you’re looking for solutions. The coach is going to help you solve that problem. Period. Is that counselling? Inevitably, yes. Life problems involve emotions and it’s those emotions that hold us back from whatever we want. Of course it’s a mild form of therapy. Coaching, counselling, it’s all just a game of semantics. .
These “coaches” really are practising therapy or counselling without a licence. Here’s why:
- We can all be very high functioning, but still have some emotional weak spots. So, when a friend, a stranger at a cafe, or a teacher gives us advice, we take it or leave it.
However, a “life coach” is standing on higher ground, much like a psychologist is-hey-this guy knows about the mind and motivation, right? We therefore tend to put much more weight into what he says and that is where the trouble starts! What if he’s wrong? You’re paying this guy because he supposedly knows something you don’t. So who are you going to second-guess? Yourself-instead of his methods.
Psychologists also do “coaching” but unlike “coaches”, they have studied human behaviour extensively. This is important.
FINDING OUT HOW TO PROCEED with any client is crucial, and this is done after assessments are made, a history is taken, etc. The difference is they are educated enough to be able to spot sensitive areas in a client and know when to proceed with caution, for example, or when not to push an idea.
Coaches are uneducated enough to miss factors that would hinder life changes-social, financial, biological-and typically just put pressure on the client to make often unrealistic changes, which causes the client to blame himself for his inability to make changes which then further inhibits any motivation.
Too often, what at first seems like a simple problem later turns out to be a bit more complex, and simplistic solutions don’t work for that.
If you want to know where coaches get all that simplistic positive energy crap, go to landmark.com, then rickross.com.