Thanks for your comment. You are right in saying that we should analyze ourselves first and even wonder if WE are the ones the prospective bf is looking for.
I know there’s no perfect guy in the world who can fully promise not to break our little hearts but I’m telling from experience that we always end up with setting standards and expectations.
Let me give you an example:
I dated a guy for three years who does not come from a very rich family and even kept it secret from me until I went to his house. I loved him for who he was and not what he had because I knew that someday he will make it to the top, because he used to be one of the brightest in his college.
When months passed, I learned that he came from a broken family, that his dad treated his mom not right and cheated on her with a girl who is as old as me now. The quarrels they had were pretty much like ours. So the vicious cycle keeps on rolling.
To sum it up, I learned his dark side and even tried with lenient conversations to fix our problem. Again I tolerated his weaknesses and tried to understand him, even convinced myself that maybe i was wrong, but what would you do if he doesn’t want to change and everything’s getting worse? Consciously or sub-consciously he is becoming a mirror of his dad and you have no more strength to fix your relationship. Don’t you think you would start saying like, What if I had a boyfriend who comes from a nice family, who knows what love and respect mean?
So many what ifs and in the end you would also set up a list of traits you wished your ex or bf should be like that…
What is important between two people is commitment and open conversation, omitting pride, anger, or lies.